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The harshness of the way i spoke
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Who is telling you that you're going to get two years of jail for saying shut up? You have a lawyer, yes? Listen to him or her. Show remorse. If it's the cops who are trying to scare you , don't talk to them without your lawyer. If it's other people, they don't sound like they know what they're talking about.

Are you seeing your mental health provider and taking your meds?
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If that's really all you did I'd think it would be a ticket to some anger management classes and not much more. It is not wrong to tread carefully, but don't totally go overboard and create an impression of much deeper guilt, either!
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Im having to use a public defender Ive heard horrible things about them is there any other type of law that I can look at?
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Im having to get family help and they are adamant that a public defender is just as good as a lawyer.
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Public defender is an attorney. They are many times working in thia office as a way to serve the public good.
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Ok
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I was just told they cant devite as much time as i may need
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Hopefully, it will be cleared up quickly and easily. You may want to consider a settlement that would require medication and monitoring by a physician and anger management classes.
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How do i go about doing that?
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Can a public defender do that
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This forum is really not qualified to answer questions like you have. You should take this up with your public defender and do whatever they recommend.

This is outside the scope of actually *giving care*.
I wish you well, but we cannot give legal advice.
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When are you meeting with the attorney (public defender is just fine for this...they ARE lawyers). Talk to him or her honestly, they want to get this settled quickly too.

Are you under psychiatric care? You appear to have very high levels of anxiety. But I agree with Tx, what you need is legal-related, not aging care related. Good luck.
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Exploiting and Intimidating an elder is are my charges.
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Will yall comment
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Well I feel there is little I can contribute being in the UK but what evidence do they have for them to charge you with exploitation AND intimidation? Presumably your advisor/attorney/whoever legal you are using are advising you of how they arrived at those charges? Have you seen your Psychiatrist? What does he/she say? Have you seen the doctor? Have the family spoken to you? We dont have enough information to comment
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Well I did yell at the woman and the girl who works with me recorded it and gave it to the police the recording was made feb 23 and only presented apr 1 isnt it illegal to record without someone knowing Exploting her I never took any amount of money from her her grandaughter paid me not her I slept on the couch
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The family doesn't believe I did it.
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It willvery much on how the evidence is presented. if you yelled at her then in effect this is abuse UNLESS of course she cant hear you unless you speak very loudly - which is not yelling. The only time I could understand yelling other than that is if the person was in danger. Older people can be very frightened by people yelling. I know my mum gets very agitated if the people next door are having a party and the volume rises. My advice would be be ahonest wioth your legal advisor and take their advice for they know the law as it applies in your state and we do not - I suspect that is why people have not answered you for they feel ill placed to so do
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I think we did not write any more because we may not have anything else to say that would help. At this point a court will have to decide whether your yelling was abusive or just inappropriate, and they would decide separately about the legality of recording. But honestly, if the other caregiver was the one writing about how it bothers her that the caregiver, who the family likes, yells too much, we might have suggested doing a recording too!

If you were yelling to get her to stop doing something dangerous it would be one thing, and people might understand if it was to stop her doing something really irritating too - I mean anyone can lose their temper once over something like that. But if your yelling included calling her ugly names or shaming her for something she really could not help, it would be another thing altogether. Has her family heard the recording? If they have heard it and don't feel bad about it you would think that might count for something, but think realistically if they may turn on you when they hear it for the first time.

If you have documentation of how much you were paid and it is not inappropriate you should not have to worry about that specifically.

Look, I'll be honest. It seems like you feel guilty and you are hoping we will say that no, you clearly did nothing wrong, but I don't think the story you have given here in its limited form can really give support to that. I wish it hadn't happened and I hope whatever happens next you can land on your feet somehow and find help for anything you need! Are you currently homeless other than sleeping on her couch?
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I yelled at her to hush and stop being hateful.
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That does not sound that bad at all if those were your exact words, and I doubt you would be in much trouble for that...unless you'd used much stronger language to covey that sentiment. I can only imagine how painful it might be to admit if that's the case, but whatever really happened you will have to face up to it.
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I yelled at a lady over 65 so here that can get you 1-5
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Im hoping my defense will get me a year.
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I'm hoping that any jury members you might be telling your story to have themselves had to deal with difficult elders. You deserve a fair hearing.
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Innocent, where is "here" and who is telling you that yelling can get you 1 to 5?
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Talk to your attorney about a guilty plea in exchange for medication oversight bu a physician, classes in anger management, and community service.
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I am now confused yelled at and yelled to are totally different concepts. yelling to someone because they are deaf is one thing yelling at someone which may have resulted in them being frightened is something else entirely. You started your convos saying she was deaf and thats why you yelled - I would have said that I was speaking to her very loudly so she could hear me. Then it turned to yell at. If you change your story as often as you have on here you are likely to have a problem for yelling at someone for being hateful is not acceptable if they have dementia - they simply dont know they are being hateful. And you can yell as much as you want but that disease aint gonna hear you
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Georgia
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You'll have to look up the law i cant understand it
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