Does your Cat (or any pet) misbehave since caregiving your loved one?
Have you been required to take care of your loved one's pet after they have passed? Does your pet have cute antics that entertain your loved one?
And finally, has the cat or dog transferred their loyalty to your Mother?
He's a rescue and has always been underweight (pretty clearly the runt of a feral litter). Hoping for the best.
We are leaving in 3 weeks time for an extended trip, so he will board at the vet and perhaps they will be able to do better than I.
A few years ago, my cat Charlie needed to have syringe water feeding. Whew, I was so glad he cooperated, except for the times when he decides he's had enough and starts to walk away, out comes the syringe with water spraying everywhere :P I think cats know when something we do is helping them.
Does Sherlock eat the special food? Charlie refused it, so the Vet said let him eat wet food whatever he likes, better than not eating at all.
Shelock seems better tonight. He isn't fighting the syringe feeding (and I've watched a couple of YouTube videos that have helped.
Send, I just now saw your post from a month ago! It's unfortunate about the terrible cat I let in here. I knew better in my gut but I had a discussion with the owner and she seemed to understand she had to remove her if things didn't go well. Well, they moved out, so it's done. But I need to stand up for myself. It's tough for me, and just easier to ignore things and grit my teeth through it.
It was a surprise that this situation was bad, considering my previous experience with the previous roomie who was reference. It ended up that BOTH of them lived here due to their circumstances... and I didn't agree to double occupancy but again, I let it slide. Believe me, I'm thinking a lot about these things I let go on and how to remedy.
I have a great new roommate, and the new policy is -- No other pets will be considered, and multiple reference checks and background checks before anyone moves in. I've found if I sublet to students or recent grads, they are busy and productive in their own lives and are solid roomies. There are plenty of women who fit that description where I live who are looking for convenient housing. These have been learning experiences, for sure. But I have been disappointed with myself that I cannot be polite-but-assertive about enforcing boundaries.
Barb - so sorry about Sherlock. Sounds like you are doing all that can be done for him.
My thoughts are with you.
8 year old Sherlock is in renal failure. On a renal diet, getting potassium, anti-nausea pills and getting syringe fed twice a day.
These roommate issues bring some strange reactions!
First, the addict roommate says something like: "I'm not moving, this is my apt. now."
Then the new roommate (who agrees to 'rehome' her cat if it doesn't work out), brings up that her cat is her support animal. Is that an implied legal defense or something? But she (like the other room mate, has given notice.).
Instead of rehoming the cat and staying.
I am just here to support you that they are very strange, it's not you! Don't even stop to doubt your sanity. It appears you are being used.
As for the empty front bedroom, put a lock on it and keep the door closed, imo.
You did not rent out that room to her or her cat. No need to grant access by default.
You say there was a written agreement about the cat? Well, boundaries would dictate that the cat must go now (preferably to a family member that can care for the cat until roommate moves out). It is amazing to me that roommate gets to keep her cat there just because she herself gave notice that she is moving?
Why, how is this even a consideration?
The cat has no legal standing, no rights in court to avoid eviction. Can you be tough about it? Ask animal control to weigh in, maybe they will come and get the cat?
Guess I would be talking to 'the good roommate' who referred this tenant to you.
Sorry that your space has been invaded again. And, they keep selling you a whole lot of B.S. to delay leaving.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pwgkgkDW6Dw
yes, Glad, I’m concerned he may go after the cats and the boys will try to stop him, then they get bit/hurt. I’d feel really bad if something happened to them as well.
The spray bottle idea is easy enough and I can use if needed.
Then he flies to the bed, walks around. This was fun, said me, thinking we are bonding. He flew over when I called him (a new behavior!) He ate spinach from my hand. He started spending more time sleeping on the computer.
He nibbled on my toes just as I was waking from a nap. So cute!
Then he bites my toe! Then he is holding on, it hurt! He is hormonal, thinking now that I am his mate, not his mom. The solution found on the internet is to distract him with a toy. To make sure he gets more sleep, undisturbed.
The idea to get him a bird companion is just not feasible. But he could be lonely, hormonal, and jealous. I have asked dH to spend more time talking to him, and taken away the mirrors, decreased the bird videos and added parental controls to the ones he watches.
Hoping this will pass and he will be okay.
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The dog is misbehaving. Board it, in my opinion. Protect your own pets first.
Ali,
Carry a spray bottle of water or keep it nearby (Ali-when the new cat is aggressive). This may help, but I am sure watching a few cat whisperer videos
will help both you, and your roommate to be on the same page.
When there was a cat who passed recently, the new cat is going to be wondering, and looking for that missing cat smell. Let alone the existence of a real cat. Replace all the bedding (including the new cat's) with new.
What happened when your DD brought the dog over is what's going to happen if he's left there for a few days. You were good to try but it's better to have the dog go to boarding and spare you and your cats the stress.
I don't blame you one bit. It would take days if not weeks for the pets to adjust. By then daughter will be back.
my daughter and sil will be going out of state for a few days for a family wedding. My daughter wants us to care for her dog (a golden retriever and the brother to our dog).
the problem is my daughters dog is not acclimated to cats. She brought him over tonight again. My cats do not like her dog. They are very scared of him. I went to the windowsill my cat was sitting on so I could put him in the bedroom, the cat panicked jumped on the table and my daughters dog went after the cat. I grabbed the cat off the table, he sticks his claws in my back. I got him in the bedroom and shut the door. My daughter felt if I had left the cat alone, the situation would have been fine. Then she proceeded to pull two claws out of her dogs fur….the claws were shredded in strips. Now keep n mind, my husband is no support or help and I’m not a dog person. I like dogs but cats are clearly my jam and always have been. I’m concerned one of my cats may get hurt.
I told my daughter I think it’s best she board her dog since I can’t depend on my husband to help.
Any suggestions from all you loving pet people?
Write down those memories, otherwise as time passes we tend to forget the crazy things they use to do. Wish I did.