I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Last month I thought S/O was going to jump up onto a chair when he saw a chipmunk in the house..... I knew I was going to be in for a long evening trying to direct that critter out the front or back door.
I have to thank my Dad, he taught me well. Not afraid of most insects, but I will go after a Wasp with a can of Raid if I can't get it to leave the premises on its own. I can handle worms, crickets, praying manthis, live mice, chipmunks, small turtles, not afraid of cows, horses, goats, or any other 4 legged livestock. Been chased by a goose once :)
When i was younger i was pulling my jumpers down from the closet and a live mouse fell in my hair and got his feet? caught i screamed the house down until my brother came to the rescue he then said "why are you screaming the poor little things more scared of you than you are of him" oh piss off bro!
I just finished work but this has been on my mind . let that damned house go and never look back . very few people during this recession have actually been evicted from their homes . most bought houses that were artificially overvalued , many with predatory loans . when the market reset itself and the home values plummeted , most owed more than the houses were worth and just walked away . love and take care of your mom and youll end up wealthy beyond most peoples comprehension . money does not equate to wealth .
all anyone really needs is a freakin shack . that's happening all over the world right now . people are tired of being enslaved to corporation and banks and many are moving into shacks not much bigger than garden sheds and semi retiring to enjoy life . the mcmansions have became liabilities . I could see it coming 25 yrs ago ..
Back in my day, working couples used one income to qualify for a mortgage, thus they bought smaller less expensive homes to start out with. That way, if one stopped working, that one income that was left could still pay the mortgage.
OMG people were panic buying here because the inventory was low so prices went up.... example, list price $500k, contract at $575k because of a bidding war, appraiser said house worth $500k so $75k had to come out of buyer's pocket, buyer got 100% loan for $500k. Seller went looking for new home, found him/herself in the same scenario, if looking in the same area.
When the market re-corrected itself, that home fell back to $375k. Prices are starting to go up, but one has to hold onto the house as a "long term" investment.
We are land obsessed here in Ireland it dates back to the british rule having land was survival! and its got worse now yep now they want 2 cars and 2 houses one abroad like we are all rockerfella?? stupid people arnt happy with thier lot anymore they want more and more its BS i would be so happy with just my house paid in full something i own mine thats it one car dosnt have to be huge just working get me from A to B big enough for my long legs and im happy!
Yeh kids now want to save for a house now before marraige?? young kids that should be out living than thinking about this crap christ imagine thinking mortgage at 18yrs old?? i was travelling europe and partying?? strange generation? it was different in mums day but like you said one mortgage one income? you just couldnt do that now!
I may never own a house here so i may move to spain and buy a small house for 59000 outright then retire there in the sun WIN WIN i can open up a coffee shop anywhere and i understand spanish so what? work my butt off here to pay for a house ill die trying to pay the bank back? im 48 id never get a mortgage or it would be a small one?
Yeh im going to take it easy after this quiet life for me and no banks to worry about! I can live off oranges and fish!
i wanted to sell this house and build one but wth ? my bunker is about the same thing , just needs dolled up a bit ..
I think its great you can just build a house like that! ive thought of buying land and getting something built but wth!! i want peace and a ready to die in house!!
Here they are saying the bubble is starting in Dublin? yep lunatics out stampeding for a house IDIOTS did they learn anything?
I dream a lot too. Not a d*mn thing wrong with that. One day those dreams WILL come true ...knock on wood, cross fingers, toss salt over my shoulder and rub my lucky coin!!!
I love Oregon in the summertime...Love Florida the other 10 months. Hmm....I think we both have the same thought process just worlds apart. Spanish is the nd language in FL. and I love coffee !! See?? gmta
Do you think i need help?
I'm loving the Essential Oils I've started. Maybe it is mind over matter but whatever, as long as it's working!!!!
Sadly, in addition to the issue as it stands...the developer who runs the HO association failed to properly repair the spillway when it broke a couple of years ago and so when they repaired it and the pond refilled, it did not refill to the point it once was so what used to be a waterfront home has been reduced to a pond on a field with a bit mudhole in the middle of it...also right after I had to leave my home and move back here, the same developer killed all my ducks ...so now that place holds nothing but sadness and horror for me...so best left behind...it is all very sad....so time to move forward...which I have actually done..I just have to get my clothing and the remainder of my furnishings home...most of which i will probably sell and put in a little nest egg for mad money... :)
Your bro sound like mine pissing about putting in garage shelves????????? money could be used for other things? is this a man thing does he think when mums gaga that shelves are going to solve all the crap ahead????
I asked him to make a pot of tea as he was putting the kettle on i told him i was tired and mum wanted tea? he said "no" had his herbal tea and left?
If he wasnt such a liability and would just man up my life would be easier but i think he feels that i am here rentfree?? BS
I had serious anger issues towards him now i wonder if hes not right in the head? he reacts to nothing says nothing i think that "silence" is worse than chinses torture? like wtf do you think then? nothing,nada? i am sick of hearing hes in denial but from where i am this "denial thing" is looking good to me think ill lose it and pretend to be in denial?? yeh pack my bag leave a note and say yeh mums fine a few fires but hey im in DENIAL so ill just get on with my life SEE YA!
Hope ive had to forgive ALOT this past year as i had to the stress they were causing me was making me ill and there will be no love lost when mum dies and the h*ll they put me through! Ill be laughing at them when im at peace and they are waking up from denial!!
like ya said -- one can dream ..
Just be there for your father. The clamminess reminds me of mom when she was close to the end. But I thought it was cold sweat. Her skin was so icy cold, yet she was sweating profusely. I didn't know this was one of the signs. But this had happened several weeks before her final rest. {{Hugs}}
Dad's helper it does indeed sound as though he is reaching the end. Many people towards the end dream of loved ones or even think they have been visited sometimes it is loved ones and sometimes complete strangers.
With COPD not being able to breath is very distressing so don't be afraid to give the morphine it will provide a lot of relief. Dehydration is not painful and some believe it can actually release endorphines which make the patient feel better.
Soda and alcohol are not very good things to be drinking so it is good he has stopped. Are his legs and feet swollen, if so and he is not taking a diuretic (water pill) ask hospice for a prescription because fluid may also be building uo in his lungs which make breathing more difficult. Also does he have oxygen? That will also add comfort and make sleeping easier. When he can't feed himself would he alow you to feed him? as long as he is interested in food provide it but once he doesn't want it do not try and force it. Maybe a suppliment like Ensure would be easy to drink. Unfortunately the dying process with COPD is not fast or very pleasant so be generous with the morphine and ask for a larger dose if it is not working. As long as it is increased slowly you are in no danger of killing him with it.
Morphine is extremely constipating so make sure you ask hospice about giving him laxatives. Try and maintain whatever has been his normal bowel pattern. he just won't have the strength to push if he gets constipated and an enema will also be hard on his breathing. If you have to take him out for any reason make sure you take a dose of the morphine with you. If your were given a dropper ask the hospice nurse for a syringe. it will be with out a needle and given in the same way but convenient to slip in a purse or pocket