I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
i hope your grief is alleviated somewhat by the relief of seeing your husband free from sickness and pain . among all the other emotions when my mom passed away a year ago was this relief . id kinda hoped mom would die from heart failure as opposed to dementia but dementia seems to be what shut her organs down . another 6 months of life would have resulted in death from kidney cancer . so yes , it can always be worse ..
CountryMouse - thank you for that thought - yes, Mom has some sleep issues, but not sure it's really apnea - because of her erratic sleep cycle we have never been able to get a good sleep study done in order to get her a CPAP or any other remedy. We've tried to have sleep studies done, but the docs told us that she never entered a deep enough sleep cycle for them to get a definitive diagnosis of apnea. She doesn't stop breathing when sleeping, but she snores something terrible - which weight loss should help, once she loses enough. I'm excited by the fact that by next week, she might be under the 300 lb. mark for the first time in decades - and so is she. :-)
(I know this is long, but I am hoping by posting this, it might help someone else dealing with the same issues, so forgive me....)
I've been keeping track of her progress over the past week, and so far:
-Mom is now able to walk further than normal under her own steam, with a cane and my assistance. Last weekend, she walked from the van, all the way into the restaurant and to the table where we were eating without stopping. In the past, she would have to stop half-way and sit down at a table to rest, and then continue on to our table.
-More alert and aware of her surroundings and interested in reading, etc. Not so zombie-like. She used to actually fall asleep in the middle of a conversation - I'd be talking to her and her eyes would close and she'd be gone. Hasn't happened for about a week now. Also, her memory issues seem to be somewhat better - still something of an issue, but I'm hopeful that they're diminishing a bit. I know they'll never go away or be completely resolved - it's just part of the aging process - but they do seem better. I'm not having to do quite as much reminding of basic tasks.
-Sleeping better - she has been telling me for the past 3 days or so that she is sleeping well at night now - is only getting up once vs. several times. She actually slept from about 11pm to 5am last night, got up for about an hour and then laid back down - that's almost a record-breaker for her! She still takes a few naps during the day, but not near as much as she used to. Now she will stay up for 2-3 hours at a time, and then lay down for an hour or so. I think the adjustment period may be ending - she's not hopping up every 10 minutes now, like she was last week. I think her body just needed to adjust to not needing so much sleep.
-She's more positive about the diet changes than she was at first. As long as she can still have a little bit of fruit now and then, she's happy. At her age (74), I'm not going to completely restrict her to an all-out low-carb way of eating, because I think that would be unfair to her. She is open to not eating the high-sugar sweets like candy, chocolate bars, ice cream, etc - and she LOVED the frozen banana "ice cream" I gave her last night - so we might be able to eliminate even the low-sugar ice cream now. She still pulls the "pouty little girl" act - in public even - when I tell her she shouldn't have the pie at breakfast on Sundays when we go out - but I think this week I'll make an LC coconut pie at home and tell her we have that waiting for us, so she'll leave the full-sugar pie alone at breakfast.
Are you sure you'll be able to be on your own after just one week? I dunno about that....
Of course you should be first priority!! Get yourself a whistle or better yet, one of those little call bells ;) I'm sure her hubby will be plenty of help since he might want his room back!! LOL!! besides, I think it will be easier for you to suffer among family, I think.... not so sure I really mean that?....nah, I'd rather go to rehab where they will MAKE me move my butt and see to it that I heal properly with exercise.
Take it easy.... all of this will still be here when you're ready :/
Just irked that years ago we could purchase appliances and they would last 20 to 30 years without any service calls :P
I was happy to move in with Mom and start using the regular ol' washer/dryer I gave her 8 years ago that's still going strong.
This is my second HE machine, the first one lasted 6 years until the spin cycle finally gave out. I should have gotten the extended warranty on this newer machine :(
Just google....
How to Fold a Fitted Sheet in 30 seconds (OCD Experience Way)
I tried it and found it to be very quick. Not perfect but .. who cares? As long as it's folded and makes room for more blankets, towels on the shelf.
FYI, I tried to do the 'perfect' way of folding the fitted sheet on 2 of the YouTube videos. I kept giggling because what I was doing as I watched them do it- came out NOT like theirs. In the end, practicality ruled... find a simple, fast way without having to go bananas over it not being folded perfectly.
it all went well for you!!
I tend to do my sheets like ff.... wash and put back on the bed (if I remember) if I forget well, I just pull the comforter up and all is just fine.
Susan, that is awesome how your mother is taking her new diet!! She will more than likely get more into as the pounds melt of of her! Kudo's to mom and you!!
Well I suppose it'll have to do.
57twin, does your eye actually feel as though somebody has wiped a misted up window? I've been trying to empathise with what it feels like for my mother, but she's too distracted to give me much of a description. Wish you better quickly, and with no complications.
My whine moment today (have to remind myself we're only allowed one!) is more of a seethe moment. It's good to talk, yes? We're supposed to keep communication open? But the trouble is that by the time I've thought through what I want to say to ex-SO I don't want to talk, I want to walk right in to the sitting room where he's watching motorbike racing and punch him in the head. I think I'd better go and dig the garden…
Just in case anyone is anxious, I would never actually do that, by the way. Just saying how I feel.
If I had trouble getting into such packaging how does an elder.
Quick stop at Dad's AL because of my cold I wonder if Dad put on more weight his sweatshirt was really tight around his stomach. I will have to have him try on more of his clothes to see what I need to buy in a larger size.
Is It A Full Moon? I don't think so but wow.....mom is on a "show" of her own since last night. No one has been excluded.... not me nor the dogs. This may sound strong but phuck I hope she tires out.. I cannot stay up another night! ;/
I take nyquill zz to help me sleep. Unfortunately I have been out for a week or so... would it be awful of me to give mom a giant tablespoon?
I am so tired.......
For my viewing pleasure I am streaming live the dissection of the colossal squid they retrieved off Antarctica. Yes, I do like watching science stuff. Fascinating.
Voting on the urine ;)
After the doctor left, I asked Dad what he thought.... boy was I relieved when Dad said he didn't want surgery at his age, he rather keep using Tylenol as that does help with the pain.... WHEW.
Glad Dad saw the light before you had to.
If the Tylenol is not working he can go on to something stronger especially if it's bad at night or maybe a knee brace would help. I know he is no longer driving so if you can keep him off ladders he should not come to too much harm with something stronger.If he is not on blood thiners has he tried Advil or Aleve. they do have the benefit of being anti inflamatory which Tylenol is not. applying heat might help too.
A knee replacement takes a great deal of rehab although some very elderly have done well and some haven't.
Just one thing occurs to me to wonder: was your FIL living on his own before he moved in with you two? Was he lonely before, and now glad to have company? It's just if he lived alone, and was mainly content like that, you could see light at the end of the tunnel; because maybe while he's adjusting he feels politely obliged to be sociable, and as time goes on he too will prefer to limit the cocktail and dinner parties to, say, a couple of times a week? Fingers crossed for you!