I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Stubborn woman with cognitive decline ?
Or bored and manipulative and wants daughter to beg her to leave . Or both ?
Like Burnt says, complaining can be a sport for some .
Her mom has been living in her home since her stepdad died. She said that they needed to evacuate the house until the gas leak was fixed. Her mother tells her, “I am not going anywhere. I intend to sleep in my own bed.”
My friend told her mom, “Well, unless you want to die, you are going to check into the hotel with us.”
My friend says that her mom is extremely stubborn. She is stubborn but I told her that she should speak to her mother’s doctor about cognitive decline.
It’s crazy that her mom wouldn’t want to evacuate a home that has a gas leak.
I felt sad for my friend having to fight with her mom in order to keep her safe. I am hoping that she will think about placing her mom in an assisted living facility.
So sorry he had to go to the ER but hopefully he (and you) will emerge victorious from all complications and that the universe will choose today please.
OK. So sorry.
Watching for updates from you.
Thoughts with you and you ex. Will look for your updates. So sorry for these complications, but this is the right place to be.
Oh no! So sorry. Sending hugs to you. Please keep us posted.
Hope your DH gets comfortable and not wobbly .
Hoping for a better day tomorrow for your husband and rest for you!
Hugs!
I am in the thick of caregiving my DH; his surgery, in which they robotically removed a stricture from his ureter and reattached it to his bladder was successful, but he is in loads of pain, and more worrisome, his blood pressure dropped very low tonight, leaving him clammy, faint feeling and wobbly.
I suspect it's the anti-spasmodic they are giving him to keep his bladder calm while it heals. Oh, and the catheters...
A better day tomorrow, please!
We tell people who we are by what we do for them, and whether or not we expect to be recognized and to have them do things for US when we need it.
If we do things for them, and don't ask for their help when we need it, then why would they help us. They think we are fully capable and they are happy to have us help them but they don't think we need them. We are too "together" to need them.
I had to be trained out of caregiver to the entire family by some shrinking by the professionals. I think you may have read about my girlfriend with her spoiled partner she did everything for. When she needed the partner she disappeared. As her shrink told her "YOU broke the contract. It is YOUR fault. The contract was that you did EVERYTHING, and then you got sick. It's your fault. You broke the contract."
I wish humans were a better animal. We aren't. And we need to tell them as you told your hubby "Look, I was there for you and you weren't for me; don't expect me to continue to be there".
Never give up. Don’t lose hope.
I’m having a &&@@“;;/::!!!”()::;(!!!!
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My whine today is that this morning early my kitty graced me with a fur ball on the rug at the end of the bed. Cleaning it up is not my fave first chore in the am, On the other hand, she is a great little companion.
Also. had conversations that went awkward with both 2 of my kids in the same evening recently/ Arrgh! Gotta back off and start connecting more with people here at the condo. May be able to make a friend or two.
Glad your DH is home and healing.
Two weeks ago, I asked, after a kind of round about "well, I could do this or that" for him to drive our car to where I was going to be by and then walk home. This was going to pick my kid up from a biopsy.
He said he really didn't want to do that. I was devastated. I was disappointed. I was angry.
This last week, when I drove him to someplace he needed to get to with some computer equipment without any fuss or muss, I said afterwards that the fact that I do stuff like that is why I was so disappointed and angry that you said no last week.
It's very hard for me to ask for stuff. And hard for me to say no to stuff that is asked of me by someone I love.
I think most of us here struggle with this sort of thing with our loved ones
Happy to hear this wonderful news!
He's mad as a wet hen that he has a catheter-I knew from perusing the Internet that it was a very likely, but it's only for a week.
Thanks for all of your prayers and good thoughts. I hope this ends his issues with gravel and stones!