I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I have been suffering for several days with sinus congestion. I am thinking about buying a Navage.
Don’t laugh but years ago when I tried netipot I couldn’t get the hang of it. I felt spastic. I kept spilling it!
It’s my own fault that I am sick, because we agreed to watch our daughter’s Siberian husky. I love him and I have snuggled with him far too much! I am allergic to cats and dogs. I took Claritin but it hasn’t helped much. Maybe I will add Mucinex.
My daughter has been in Colorado for two weeks. She flew home last night. She Ubered to her house and is picking up the dog after she gets off work today.
Do you use your Navage often? Thanks for the additional information. I will look into that.
I highly recommend it.
Do the research on how to use it with your own solution, it is so expensive otherwise.
My allergies are driving me crazy!
So, he’s pacifying his dad.
It kind of reminds me of when I was a kid and my mother said, “We’ll see.” Oh my gosh, I knew every time my mom used that phrase, it really meant, “No!”
Yep, it’s a stall tactic.
DH knows better. But doesn’t always act .
Instead he just stalls, tells his father he will get to it.
Then turns to me and says ,
“ I’m done dealing with this S4!t “
His other go to answer for when he doesn’t do something ( even if it will make it easier for all ).
Yep, one phone call to the assisted living facility is a lot easier than running over there.
Your husband is lucky to be married to a logical woman!
Thanks
DH is just as ridiculous. He’s complaining to me about his father calling him about his hearing aide. He told his father he couldn’t run down tonight .
I told DH when his father calls, tell his father to use his call bell. DH replied to me with his go to answer “ I’m sick of this “. And added , “he won’t use the bell”.
Sheez. It was clear DH wasn’t going to do anything so I called the AL. Otherwise FIL would call DH about it again.
Sorry about the text that your daughter sent.
That is so hard. Your FIL is exactly where he needs to be. He could never survive on his own without help.
I am sure that you and your husband thought that it would become easier when he was placed in assisted living.
It isn’t any easier if he still depends on y’all for help. Grrrrrrr…
So I called and asked the nurse to look for it when she brought him his meds , or to send and aide in to look for it .
“ he likes to be doted on “.
He has staff to dote on him where he lives . He also has activities , and meal time for opportunity to make friends there and have a social life. They also bring in church services , and most likely have some outings he can go on out to restaurants , stores , perhaps the movies or a play , library .
My FIL refused to make friends where he lives , that’s on him . He partially did it to try to get us to dote on him more. He demanded we take him out to meals and wanted us to take him on vacations where he wanted to go . Being in AL was beneath him . He still complains that he’s “ in an institution” , nothing we can do about it. FIL has dementia, 1/2 the time he doesn’t think he belongs there. We encourage him to go to activities , make friends and then we change the subject .
sorry you had a bad text . Glad you will treat yourself.
Good start for the New Year !
"How do I deal with dad starting to complain about being lonely?"
Well Dad, being lonely is a problem that can happen as we age, or any age really. What can you think of to see more people, get more fun into your life?
Turn it back to him. It's his feeling. Only he can fix his own feelings.
Do you think perhaps he's attempting to turn you into a "flying monkey"? That's a relative who is enlisted by someone with a personality disorder to get someone ELSE to do their bidding. It seems to me that both your sister and aunt fell prey to this when Dad was living with YOU. Do you see the pattern here?
Dad is in a good facility with lots to do, yes? He has dementia and can't be reasoned with, yes?
How about "sorry dad, can't help you out there" and move on to another topic?
Not sure how to deal with this. I explained he sees more family now than he did living with me and he is safer.
He likes being doted on. I can't visit, I am many states away. He did have a social life living with me, Dinner, breakfast and lunches out and church on Sundays. That took a toll on the people having to drive him everywhere. Took a toll on me and my wife too. Now we have one adult child back in the house and watch my granddaughter 3 days a week (my choice).
How do I deal with dad starting to complain about being lonely?
And now these bullies are forever out of my life!
Thanks for all your support.
Yay 😃! Wonderful!!!
Congratulations on your legal victory.