I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I read all my FIL lab results that way , as well as doctors notes etc when he has been at the hospital .
I’m not confident a live person would even answer a phone in the lab these days .
And it’s great that they told her she has a UTI, but is anyone calling in a script ? By now they have the sensitivity results of the urine C&S. Meaning they have cultured the specimen and tested to see what antibiotics it is sensitive to .
Hopefully they call in a script or send the lab results to her primary doctor who can call in a script . If her primary doctors office uses the same medical records system as the hospital , the primary doctor should be able to see the record on the computer . Where I live most doctors and hospitals uses EPIC .
In the past when I had frequent UTIs they often didn't show in the UA. They only showed in the culture. She should call the lab and be certain. Results, if they come through the computer, expected in about three days. I always recommend a culture. Glad she got her results.
I have never had a UTI so I personally have no clue as to how they feel.
My oldest daughter has them. It sounds like they are very uncomfortable.
My mom got them occasionally. Her brother had one that turned septic and nearly died.
He was a bit stubborn and insisted on staying in his house when he could no longer care for himself. My cousins finally convinced him to go to a nursing home after he dealt with sepsis.
Lo and behold, she texts me this am that she's gotten a message from the hospital --positive UTI culture.
I would not know this stuff if I hadn't been hanging out here since 2011! Thank you all.
Backs are about as individual as our own thumbprint, but for me it is the bend and reach that gets it every time (think bedmaking).
Looked for your update all yesterday, and was thinking of you. Be real careful while there is nerve pain. And once it goes to muscle spasm you can move around more. NO SITTING. Semi-fowlers or up or walking or laying.
GOOD LUCK.
Did you try ice or a heating pad ?
Hope that this passes as quickly as possible. Glad you’re going to the doctor tomorrow.
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Your girl is 41. Mine is 61. I think you and I can agree together that they are grownups now. Mine is going grey. They have to learn to survive without us. Your girl has a hubby. She has friends I have to assume. She has Uber and Lyft and if she doesn't she has 911.
I still remember my caregiver tendencies nearly killing me off. I had to ge guided through by my shrink to learn to say "No. I am sorry. I can't". It was tough for my girl to hear. Hard. She said "But you are the only one responsible enough to help me do blah blah" and I had to say "What I am telling you is that I cannot be responsible for that now. Can't anymore. That you have to take care of it yourself". She was angry. It hurt like hell. I had made her believe I would always be mommie no matter how grown up she is. But it was the beginning of real growth for BOTH of us and for our relationship. Now, at 81 and 61 respectively SHE is often MY wisewoman, instead of the other way round. I don't know what I would have done without her when my bro was ill, when he died.
We have to stop enabling them, let them cut the cord, let them learn to THRIVE and SURVIVE on their own. That is not being a bad mom. THat is being a GOOD mom because it makes their self esteem grow exponentially.
It's tough for us Moms to learn that we don't have all the answers, that we can't always help our kids or save our kids or be the answer for our kids. But it is part of the life cycle.
I agree with others here that no one who knows you could ever fault you for a lack of caring love. NEVER. You are known for it here, and I would imagine everywhere.
You perhaps feel hurt now and I know what it feels like but the truth is that this is a good thing.
Hope your girl is OK. Hoping this isn't a kidney stone. I had diverticulitis show up referring pain to flank of all things. Hope she's doing OK.
You always are reaching out to so many with sane advice. When I first joined here and knew so little about so much regarding elder care issues you were one of the first posters to reach out to me. I believe your inner voice guides you with the correct decision choices. I hope your daughter heals.
You love your daughter and it shows.
You’re being reasonable by following the instructions not to drive. Hopefully, she understands that it isn’t a good idea for you to be on the road tonight.
I hope that you and your daughter start to feel better soon.
Bounce is right . You did everything you could do . You got her to go to the ER . That’s most important .
I think Mom grief is in our DNA
You are not negligent . You can’t drive today . It is what it is.
I ask if she has called her doc (who is the MIST responsive guy on earth). She says "I can't do that until the morning."
Whaaaast?
At my urging, she calls, he tells her which ER to go to.
She emails "can someone pick me up?"
Am I a terrible mother? I said I would CC an Uber. I gave blood today, badly and was told not to drive for 24 hours.
I am done here. But I feel so negligent.
It makes so much more sense knowing the justice you are hoping for comes out of a court case in the law system. Looks like the case is done and you are waiting for a judgement to be handed down that favors your side in the matter. I wish you very good luck with it. And whatever the outcome is, I hope that once this "dispute" is settled in the court you will be able to move on with life, knowing you have done all you conceivably could do.
I will now know what your "let justice prevail" messages to us means, and will be able to send positive thought out to you. I surely wish the very best for you.