I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
-2 whines.
(1-3 = -2)
My whine:
It’s another ugh day. Nothing in particular. It’s just taking me ages getting my life back on track, after having helped my mom for ages. I though it would take me two hours. :)
End of whine.
My anti-whines:
1. I’ve always gotten back on my feet before, so I’ll succeed again.
2. It’s summer. How bad can life really be??
3. I need something new in my life. Changing life-long habits. Something new that gets me excited to be alive. Today I’ll brain-storm about what that can be.
End of anti-whines.
Sorry, things are not going well. Hoping that things will improve soon. Hugs!
After my dad died, we put a medium gardenia bush &ceramic pot in the front garden. 2 months later our HOA sent a letter wanting it removed. Mom didn't have 'permission' from the architectural committee. So she did the forms, HOA rejected her request, did another form and got approved. Kinda asinine 😏
Very angry and frustrated about a lot of things. Tonight? The HOA that has disallowed me on any boards in order to settle a lawsuit! Fine, feather in my cap! A GC that really screwed up grading on my lot (25K to fix)! A hail storm that caused 35K (probably more) of damage, 3" stones. Have had three contracts on my house fall! Just doing good to get by.
Don't even need to think about getting old! Just need to get out of here!
I have just had itl! Maybe I need to vent here more often. Just over the top, 100 degrees doesn't help!
There was a poster a long time ago that was an only child who commented, “Gee, after reading about all of these siblings fighting, I am glad that I am an only child!”
GI, I’m an only child. But I think co-caring for an elderly parent with siblings either (1) brings them closer together, or (2) brings out their true nature (their ugly side).
I hope your sister treats you well.
“Today I’m thinking about my age, and how time’s slipping by while I help my mom. I want to have kids.”
I think it’s a clear sign that things need to change. You deserve to get your life back.
That’s right, I want freedom.
like Need, I hope you can both be free.
Thanks Need, you express it better than me!!!
I hate that expression too. It never made sense to me.
That is truly an awful thing to say to someone. I bet she felt like screaming when she heard that.
She said to me "people keep saying 'look at the bright side...'".
I stopped and told her she has my permission to hit ANYONE who says those words to her.
I live very near my mom. When I visit to help out, I get knots, too. I also noticed I eat a lot of snacks, right before visiting. It’s like I have to numb myself before going there.
I’m thinking of quitting to help. I’ve given years of my life helping (not every day), for an ungrateful, extremely abusive mom.
Hothouse, it’s so hard.
And it just keeps going…unless one totally walks away. I know you’re doing it to help your sisters, otherwise they have to do everything alone.
It’s bad enough giving a huge chunk of one’s time, but getting abused, insulted, while you help?…
My headache finally eased up. I hope you feel better soon too.
(Enter: supercat hero music)