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Barb, Hoping your DH gets back on his feet quickly and back walking those NYC streets very soon. All the best to you both.
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Sounds like good followup for hubby Barb. So glad you are BOTH home and recovering from it all.
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DH had his first visit from VNS! They are setting up some nursing visits to monitor him and will give in-home PT and OT.

He can walk well indoor and in our quiet parking lot, but the quality of his gait is still quite stiff and guarded. It doesn't appear that walking on NYC sidewalks is where he should be just yet
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Need: You're welcome.
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Llama,

Thanks, I have Mardi Gras fever this time of year!
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Need: Love your new avatar!
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Yay! My whine about our weather for the parade on Sunday looks like it will not be a big problem!

As we say here in New Orleans, “Let the good times roll! (Laisess la bon temps rouler)
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Barb, such good news (excepting of course the other relatives and more problems.)
Go glad things are going as well as can be expected.
Rest up. Continue to throw money at those problems when you can. It's a good use of it.
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Don’t rain on my parade! Weather looks questionable for Sunday’s Bacchus parade.

Should be nice for Mardi Gras Day (Fat Tuesday.)
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(((((Hugs))))) Ali. How frustrating!!! It's rotten when other students do that. You'd think by the grad level they would know better. I would have done as you did. Just get it done and count it a bad experience. True - it is like caregiving can be - there are some who do and some who don't or won't do.

Barb - you both are dealing with this very well!!!
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Alva, I was advocating for him to go to rehab even when we were in the ER; (the nurses humored me; I didn't get get just how close to dying he was.)

6 units of blood later and 5 nights in the ICU, the guys gets up and walks two city blocks. So, no in-patient rehab.

He's home, will go to our patient PT once he can walk the 2 blocks there himself.

We are both knackered right now. And of course, the other grandparents are out of state right now dealing with another family member who had a medical emergency.

I saw my daughter whose child needs schlepping to activities during the week briefly on Sunday evening. I handed her $100 and said "this is the money I'm throwing at this problem, tell me if more is needed". She was able to manage getting gdtr to dance on Monday and will do the Hebrew School run tomorrow. I took my gdtr to art today and then for pizza

She asked good questions. Wanted to know how her GPA was feeling. Told me that she was afraid he was going to die. Didn't understand how you could bleed on the inside.

I'm grateful that my children are so transparent with their kids about this stuff.

Ali, learning to deal with team members who don't cooperate is one of the great lessons of grad school. Go and talk to your instructor, not to tattle, but to learn how to manage this sort of thing.
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Barb, Great progress for you both. Hope it all moves forward in the right direction.
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Alibobali ,

That is interesting . I never made that connection. But it’s true , in group projects in school there were always those who did and those who let the others do . Similar to what many of us experience in caregiving .

I hope it gets better for you .
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I've wanted to come to this thread a few times over the past week and whine about this horrible group project I just went through for school.

It was TERRIBLE. I tried early on to organize my group of 5. I did the entire assignment myself because others were lazy, unavailable, and inept. Sigh.

It triggered some memories of caregiving. It's as if when we are the one who shows initiative, and others don't want to do the work, then they stay unavailable... and they know you'll do the job.

Weaponized incompetence. Something like that.

I was furious at times. I have to get over it quickly because I'm working on the most demanding and complex final paper/project I've ever had to do.

I can do this. Deep breaths. Keep moving forward, keep putting in the work.
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Barb, I'm really happy for you and hubs that he's come through this ok, and things are returning to normal. He IS lucky to have you keeping him well, haha. Keep yourself well, too. 💜
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I'm glad to hear it, Barb.
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Barb, I so watch for your updates. I see you are getting things into the place for a thought to homecoming. Has there been no recent need for transfusion? I am waiting to believe there are no bleeders, small or large happening. Do they speak at all about a brief go at rehab? Would you be amendable to that? If you bring hubby home what support system will you yourself have? How is the BP and are you taking better care.
So glad of your husband's great fortitude in all of this, but so glad that you are the "standing patient" there for him.
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Barb,

So happy for you and hubby! He’s improving.
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Barb: That's great news!
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Excellent news Barb!
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That's great, Barb. Good for him!!!
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Yay Barb,
Good news !!
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6 nights in the surg ICU and 2 nights on a regular surgical floor. 6 pints of blood. And he's a bit tired, but walking around like not much happened.

I am beyond humbled at the resilience and strength of this guy.
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Barb, that’s wonderful!
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My DH is home! Thanks for all your support!
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Burnt,

Our parades are fun. I love the artistry of the floats but everyone who knows me will tell you that the marching bands are my favorite part of the parade! I love music. Our city is filled with fantastic musicians.

Your king cake sounds yummy!

Mardi Gras is one big party!
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@NHWM and Way

You two know how it goes in New Orleans. I've made a king cake a few times. It came out good and it is sort of like a big donut. Mine had cinnamon/praline filling anf of course the little plastic baby.

I sure wish I was down in New Orleans this year for Fat Tuesday. Before I get too old to party.
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Way,

You got the baby in the king cake. My kids collected them over the years and I had a drawer full of them! LOL 😆

Anyway, in the old pagan days, the baby meant luck and prosperity. After the church became involved, the baby represented, baby Jesus.

If you get the baby you buy the next king cake.
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Way,

They are called king cakes but they are like either a cinnamon roll or a donut.

They are decorated in purple, green and gold colors.

Purple is for justice

Green is for faith

Gold is for power
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Need . The king cake I had was more like a very good donut . I don’t know if others are more cake like . I never had it but the one time .
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