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Tothill, not trying to contradict you, but it depends on what type of trust it is whether you can change the beneficiary or restate the trust.

Yours is probably an irrevocable trust. A revocable trust can be changed. Just an FYI.

Crushedlove, when are you guys getting married? Is there any particular reason that you have not already been married? Obviously none of us can know what your relationship is, we can only share from personal experience and beliefs. You must follow your desires and I think most of us want you to really look at this situation from all angles to ensure that you are not being used or set up to be crushed because you didn't see something coming. I get that you love and trust this man, good foundational start.

Can I recommend that you do some serious research on prenuptial agreements, there are some issues with them that are not generally known and could truly set people up for big surprises.
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You say that you are living with your MIL and Fiance so you do know what you are in for, and it doesn't sound as though you are enjoying it. I know that you know it will get a good deal worse, and no better with the MIL and I know that you know you may soon be caring for BOTH your MIL and your then husband. If this is not something you are signing on for, you had best make this clear to your Fiance. I didn't read below to any Trust documents. You say you Trust your Fiance. I would quote a past President by saying "Trust, but verify".
As to legality, you are never responsible for caring for an elder legally, and if you were made responsible you can always resign legally from those duties. Sometimes not without ease, but you can do it. If, say he has a trust leaving all his funds to his mother for her care and you as Trustee, you would have a choice upon his death to resign that designation. So no, you are never legally responsible for her, you could leave on his death. Other family or court appointed guardian would act on her behalf.
I will say only that if you are unhappy BEFORE the marriage with the overall situation I think you will be amazed at how much worse it is AFTER, as there will be many assumptions made about your having CHOSEN this. And ultimately this is your choice for your life. I wish you the very best of luck moving forward.
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