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My mom lives with me and uses depend overnights. I simply go in her room, put the used friends in a osier bag and put it in our outdoor trash bin. Simple, no odor accumulates and it takes a few minutes.
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I would try putting the pail in the corner where she is throwing the pads. This might be easier than trying to get her to both use the can and remember where it is. 😁
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When it comes to caring for folks with incontinence, first and foremost all carpets have to be removed in favor of tile or linoleum flooring that can be mopped/swiffered/bleached and sanitized.

Also, with dementia patients I find the problem is me and my expectation that they will line up with my requests/suggesstions of using a hamper, 'diaper pail', or spraying deodorizer in the room or their depends.

Their disease doesn't allow them to think in an orderly and linear fashion where action 'A' requires follow-up action 'B', otherwise consequence 'C' happens.

I had to adjust my expectation to their reality, as I can not expect them to align their reality with my expectation.
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After cleaning up, open the windows and use Febreeze.
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She is still young to have to be going through this. The best thing you can do is just throw them away yourself and forget about it being an issue. You will be happier in the long run. I know it must be icky but it will take a minute to do and it's done. Use rubber gloves if necessary. Think of all the people who are doing this for either their own family or someone else. Keep in mind there are adult children who are disabled and can't do this either.
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You might also have the doctor check her for a UTI, bladder and / or kidney infection. Any of them can cause a strong odor in her urine. I didn't know this until my mom was hospitalized and diagnosed with one among other issues. Once the infection was cleared up, her urine and incontinence products were a lot less odorous.
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Sorry to be so blunt, but you have two options left. Demand ( good luck with that ) that she dispose of anything soiled properly, or do it yourself at least once daily. I don't mean to sound heartless, but she is living in YOUR home and you have a right to enjoy your surroundings as much as possible while still caring for your mom. Keep in mind though, that as other posters have said, there may be an underlying issues unrelated to dementia causing this.
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A woman of 70 is NOT elderly! Good grief! I am 70 and if I wasn't able to control my urine, I would promptly get myself to the doctor! That would be so GROSSLY UNACCEPTABLE TO ME! I  WOULD DEMAND A SAME DAY APPOINTMENT!
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There is some underlying issue causing her to have trouble of 'letting go' of things - including the used underpants.
Try putting an extra diaper pail (or more) in her room, including her favorite 'corner' that she puts them in.
Is there much 'light' in her corner where she stashes them? If not, add a light (even a battery one that sticks on the wall with tape like they sell for closets and such). Having a light there may help deter her from keeping them there.
Other than that - you are really doing all that you can to mitigate the issue, and the odors.
On the 'bright side', at least she is wearing the underpants ---- and not going 'al fresco' all over the house.
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Have you tried putting the pail in the corner where she puts the diapers?
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