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Caregiving is a very common subject. Most understand or try to, at least. I hope I have the desire to date if I make it 62. I have noticed that when I bring MIL around with me ...out... I run into other caregivers in the same boat as me.I see the other caregivers as a "support group" and I do go to actual support groups (they provide "free" activities for MIL while I'm there) I meet and debrief it's rejuvenating. ( I Googled adult care support groups in my area and found 2 free groups) Definitely find a companion(babysitter) it's an expense but so worth it in the end. I found a companion that would care for MIL at her house, so I bring MIL there and pick her up. It wasn't easy but I introduced her as a friend and stayed with them the first few times. Now when I ask if MIL wants to go to Emily's house for coffee, she gets excited. It's an extra chore to get her up and out of the house and costs a significant amount......but I get a day to myself or with husband. I hope you can work things out, your life is so not over.
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Imf1958's response was excellent. Sounds like you feel burdened by your responsibility, you need to focus on keeping yourself healthy, both physically and emotionally. Go to a support group or exercise class. Figure out what you are going to do next, after your mother passes or goes into assisted living or memory care. There are many free courses on Coursera.org. You can learn new stuff while caring for your mother. Maybe you can learn to mediate to calm yourself. This period will not last forever,
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Yes, this is definitely very possible if you have someone who can stay with your mom while you go on a date. Sometimes caregivers just need to get away and take care of themselves to help prevent burnout.
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Your life is not over. And being in a relationship should not be your goal. Get someone to stay with mom once or twice a month and get out and do something for yourself. Whether it's going to church, the movies, the library or taking a class or whatever. Don't focus on being single, focus on making yourself a happier, more relaxed, empowered person in charge of their own life. Others are drawn to that type of person. This is only a small slice of your life and mom will be gone (too soon). Cherish the time you have with her but take care of yourself also.
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