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I just spoke with the Adult Protective Services investigator and she made me out to be the wrong one. She said "with all due respect this lady is taking care of your father". "I said why because you met with them for 5 mins" And if she is it's only because she's getting her bills paid and he's leaving everything to her?! Why would not risk him signing over his poa and benefits... gotta keep him close and his family far so she can get whats left... Are these people stupid or what?! I give up! This is why this happens because it's easy!
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At this point you have to walk away, because obviously he told APS he is happy with her caregiving. You are too far away to do anything differently. I think he is playing both of you against each other, not uncommon in dementia. The "divide and conquer" manipulation keeps you two fighting and he maintains control. Lots of posters here report huge sibling conflicts and their aging parent uses "he said she said" to keep them arguing.
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I think the answer is there. Take pamstegman's advice or fight fight fight with the help of a lawyer knowledgeable in these matters. The free help of the APS does not want to take it on because it is too hard and they don't get any more money for their effort. You have to decide if you are up to the fight and anguish or just move on.
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I have a similar situation, which I reported to APS in Boston. Met with them. They even saw my parent in their confused state of mind. They did NOTHING.
A social worker there told me of a similar case, which is ongoing in Boston, where a woman moved in with an elderly man with dementia and is taking advantage of him. The woman is a PROSTITUTE! APS will not do anything about it!! The man's daughter is beside herself! She can't do anything about the situation.
I am also frustrated in APS' lack of protection of the elderly. Children of the elderly report the abuses and APS does NOTHING. God help us!!
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