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Whether money is a concern or not, you might want to try for free advice from legal non-profit agencies, or even the prosecutors offices to address your brother's abuse of power.

Being true to yourself and leaving no regret can be difficult especially with your situation. It seems you reached to point to say its not worth it and let your brother get his not-so-nice way. If there are ways to resolve the problem whether a 3rd party is needed or not, and whether you see realistic hope or not, you may want to give it your best shot as you could just be the person to somehow bring the family back together. Not always easy, but could have much meaning.
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The amount of the estate divided by 5 would only be around 25-30K each... It's, for us, a nice chunk-o-change; as we are mostly lower-middle class and have few savings... but when I think of the more important things: aspects of morality; motherhood and self-respect.... just knowing inside that you've done the "right thing" by ushering a confused dementia-patient who happens to be your parent peacefully into the domain of whatever comes next; it seems that sibling rivalry could be set aside; despite the many mistakes in judgment she made along the way. Perhaps she done her best under conditions of mental illness, poverty and the twisted male-dominated attitudes of the day. I don't know much about her early life. I do know she lived through The Great Depression; World War II, the deaths of her entire large family, the loss of her husband and oldest son. I know that she endured 2 sons going off to the Vietnam War... and by the grace of God returning alive... one was a mental catastrophe when he got home after 3 years of combat (that one was me!). She has lived a hard life. I wish she could end it "in peace". She made horrendous mistakes that affected every one of her children and grand-children negatively; but why not let God judge that. She DID love me enough for me to survive! I sometimes wish she had loved me like she did the "favorite sons"... but then, I look at them and think," No, I wouldn't want to be like them. One, has died already and the other acts like a spoiled brat toward his siblings whom have helped him so much! "
He feels greed and jealousy and a deep sense of entitlement beyond all the rest of us. No, I am stronger than that... I know I can survive on my own with, or without, the combined legacy of my TWO parents. I guess I just don't want to feel "left-out"; that would feel crushing to my poor little ego.
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Indycoop, talk to Captain, he is walking in your shoes.
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I think that you need an attorney. A judge needs to evaluate your mother, or at least see a doctor's evaluation.

It seems to me that she was better off in the nursing home.

Can you give us a rough idea of how much money is being fought over?
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THANK YOU, Shaking the dust off! but what is DCF?
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