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Remember you need to take care of yourself , first and for most. I’m sending blessings and good vibes.
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Talk to your mother and discuss how she wants things to be. If they want to stay where they are then perhaps setting her up to facetime might be possible, and you can assist her in arranging any help she needs. If they want to move back get details on suitable facilities they could move to closer to you so you can go and see them regularly. But whilst she at least can make decisions then leave her to do so - get POAs if you don't have them for when needed and visit once a month and talk on the phone a couple of times a week. Don't stress over something that hasn't happened, we all look into what we think is the future but we cannot see what is there. Living their own lives with support helps your parents and you (you have to look after your health and your relationship), Help them because you love them, don't let it become a duty or a burden. There are always people who can help and support, you are thinking of them and care which makes you a good person, but that doesn't mean you have to do everything or worry about decisions they make. They let you grow into being an adult, at the moment let them be the same. You are not alone and you are obviously very sensible and caring, take the steps one at a time as needed and care for you too..
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Planning for the future and necessary discussions is good, I think you need to concentrate on the present first. Call the local Area Agency on Aging (AAA) in the county where your parents reside and begin gathering information on what services may be available to help your mother care for your dad in their home today. Things like Adult Day Care (ADC) that Dad can attend for a few hours during the week can be wonderful for BOTH of them. It will give your Dad social interactions outside the home even as his capability decrease and it will give your Mom a few hours where she doesn't have to worry about your father and can do things she needs (like shopping) and take care of herself (sleep, meet her friends doctor appointments). ADC is our area came with transportation service and when my mother needed a wheelchair, would pick her up in the chair and return in the afternoon. I think my mom liked the rides as well as actually attending ADC. In my area, AAA also offers some personal care and housekeeping services at no or a very reduced cost compared to hiring these services separately. Another benefit is AAA sources the people and makes sure they are vaccinated (not a small concern during covid).

If your mother isn't very computer savvy, perhaps you could see if there is a grocery store in her area that either delivers to her home or at least lets you put in an order online and then just pick it up. I found ordering stables like eggs and toilet paper online, then going to the store while my mother was at ADC and shopping for the fresh fruit and veggies, then picking up the order on my way home was a lot easier than trying to shop for everything. Later when ADC wasn't operating because of covid, I had all the groceries delivered. Mom could call you and tell you what she wants from the store as you put in the online order; it would also be a good communication for you to keep current on how things are going.
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