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I agree, I wouldn't leave them alone. Sounds to me she was not giving him needed meds or she was giving him something he shouldn't have been getting. Did you have him checked out when he moved in. Especially blood and urine tests?

Is Common Law legal in his state? If so, does she have paperwork showing she is his wife. Just living together doesn't make it so.

If she visits, I'd make sure someone was with them all the time. If she causes problems, ask her to leave. Really, I wouldn't feel comfortable with a stranger in my house and I wouldn't allow her the run of my house.
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I wouldn't leave them alone in my home.... my suspicious mind?
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It's so hard to understand someone's relationship from the outside looking in. Who knows how they are fulfilling each others needs? I'm sure she is missing him and anxious to have him back.

I agree with the advice that before she arrives, you could try to set up POA and activate it so it cannot be reassigned. I am also suspicious of her offer to let you go visit your sisters. You might come home to find he has decided to leave with her- or they have been married!

It does sound like he is better off with you. But if he is still able to make his own decisions and decides to leave with her, I think you just have to accept that.
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Hmm I don’t think I’d leave him alone with the GF. If he wants you to attend the appointment, he may be having some misgivings about the visit as well. She may set him back emotionally without your presence. Maybe I’m just cynical but she may even conspire to take him back to her home?
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Bornagain Nov 2018
I agree with the previous answer.
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Your instincts are clearly crying out to you that dad’s care under his CL wife hasn’t been what he needs or requires at this point in his life. Out of your sense of kindness and respect you’ve been trying to make excuses or see it for better than what it is, that’s human nature. We all want to see the best in others and you’d think after their years together she’d be giving him the best. But all signs point to his care suffering with her. And naturally he’s conflicted, both protective and wary of her. Realizing you’re walking on eggshells here, know that you’re priority here is dad’s care, not soothing her feelings. Time to ensure all the needed documents like POA and his medical wishes are in order, as well as a solid plan for his continuing care which can’t be under a woman he’s done so poorly with. Respect their relationship yes, but though her feelings may be hurt time to look out for dad. She didn’t
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