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My dad (78) has Parkinson's, and my mom (70) has Alzheimer's. How do I go being paid and maybe even compensated for the last 3 years? They have Medicare and my dad gets SSDI. My dad is a veteran, but he isnt getting any benefits from the VA because I guess he thought he don't need it? Should I look into that for him? What is he missing out on?

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First things first: You won't know what (if any) benefits through the Veteran's Admin. your father might be missing out on, until you talk with a Rep. or Counselor with the VA. You live in a town that is near Houston, where the VA is located near the Astrodome, at 6900 Almeda Rd, Houston, TX 77030. You won't know until you "try" by talking with the VA about what benefits your father might be eligible for. I have heard of the VA providing "home health care" at some level, and this would enable you to work outside your parents' home and build up your own Soc. Sec. account and build up perhaps your self esteem. The Houston Veteran's Admin. gets mixed reviews. Some state that they were greatly helped. Have your father's service record (years of service) handy when you speak with them. One number I find is 800-827-1000. Another I find is 713-797-8985. Tell anyone you speak with you are seeking to understand Benefits for which your father may be eligible. Take notes, write down date and name of VA person to whom you speak. You will not know, until you try, "what" your Dad may be eligible for. Retroactive compensation is highly unlikely. Another topic: Be ready to share with a VA Benefits counselor, what your father already receives, i.e. amount of SSDI he currently is paid. If there is an American Legion post in Livingston area, or a VFW Post: Sometimes there are helpful volunteers at these posts who can assist you in knowing how to ask the right questions or how to make the most of your visit with the VA. Get as much help as you can to propel you outside their home, even part time, to get employment for yourself.
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Sickofmyparents Jul 2023
Caregiving IS a full time job. 24/7 for some. Implying that it is not, and someone should seek outside employment to ‘get some self esteem’ is just utterly offensive.
Do you also tell full time housewives they should get a job for some self esteem?
This person asked for help, they did not ask for your opinion about their self esteem.
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Retroactive pay? Forget it. I hope your mom is getting Social Security too. Your dad is no longer getting SSDI, that converted to regular Social Security when he reached his full retirement age.
Did your dad serve in VietNam and was possibly exposed to Agent Orange? If so, with his diagnosis of Parkinson's he could get 100% disability benefits which are about $3700 per month now. By all means contact the VA or a veterans group like the VFW or your state for help in accessing VA benefits. He may also be eligible for medical care through the VA. You need to get a Durable Power of Attorney for him ( might be too late for Mom depending on how far her Alzheimers has advanced). Contact the numerous Parkinson's organizations for information and advice. Start planning ahead for yourself because it's unlikely that you will be able to provide all the necessary care for two disabled adults with progressively degenerative diseases
Better than getting paid yourself for providing for their care, use resources to help them. Find a better paying job than caregiver for yourself, out of the house, so you have a life outside of their care.
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Grandma1954 Jul 2023
He does not have to have served IN Vietnam. People serving in Laos and also what they are calling "Blue Water Veterans"
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Unfortunately as a spouse, I do not qualify to be compensated by the VA for the 24/7 care I provide. As a daughter you are eligible to be compensated if certain guidelines are met. If you read the guidelines, be sure you don't "disqualify yourself" by not following through with everyone's suggestion of contacting your county veterans affairs office. They know the important details that may qualify you even if you think you aren't eligible. They may only back pay to the date of your application... so get started on that right away.

We weren't interested in VA health care because we had good insurance and did not want to change providers. BUT, once I started looking for respite care and got him into the system I learned he only had to go for an annual check up and we could continue using our private providers for everything else. I didn't receive the respite care right away like I hoped for but in the mean time he received hearing aids, eyeglasses, wheel chair, U-Step Walker (specifically for neurological issues), incontinence products and so much more that has saved us a lot of money. We finally began receiving benefits to have someone assist me in his care.

If he has gotten no care from the VA, start there first! Contact your local VA hospital and they will direct you to the office to get enrolled.
https://www.va.gov/health-care/how-to-apply/

My husband is 75 with Parkinson's and I would love to chat with you if you would like to contact me privately. A lot of navigating the VA is knowing what to ask for because sometimes individual VA providers aren't aware of what the other departments might make available to you.
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Justperforming Jul 2023
I am a spouse to a vet getting disability. The VA is paying me a monthly stipend to care for him.
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Contact the VA for what you might be missing out on. Veterans have a lot of benefits, so you will need to contact them and ask how to ascertain your parents' eligibility. Have your Dad's service ID number at hand. I will hope that someone here has done this and can guide you in how to get started.

As to payment for services already rendered by you to your parents, that will not happen, so you can let go of that one. Some states will pay family through the medicaid program a small stipend; it isn't enough to support you. And because medicaid does clawback on any home your parents may have you cannot afford to do this care, ending up homeless and without a job history. Check with your own States policies re SSDI and payment for family caregivers.

I would speak with an Elder Law Attorney. You need a ONE HOUR consult (and specify that) to find out what choices and possiblities there are for you. You also need to know what documentation you need such as POA, and need a grounding on the DUTIES and the rights of a POA, and whether you feel capable of undertaking that task.

Are you the only child in the area? Are there other children outside the area who are any support to you and your parents? Do they own their own home?

I do suggest you get good, solid legal advice. Might this cost you as much as 1K if you need a few hours? Yes, it might. But you will know what you can access to help you.

I hope Igloo is around and about on the Forum because she will have some good advice for you as well.

AARP had a volunteer hot line now. The way it works is that you call, and you say where you live and when they can contact you. Then they have a volunteer in your area call you with access to information idea for you in your area. That number is 1-888-281-0145. If this turns out to be of help I would love to know, as this is a new service they just posted in their last magazine and I don't know many who have tried it.

Good luck, SUNNY, and welcome to Forum.
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Definitely look into VA benefits. Given his age, I am guessing he served during the VietNam era and there are many benefits for which he may qualify.
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Forget about trying to get paid for what you have done in the past.
Your parents can pay you. There should be a contract indicating that you are providing care.
Since dad is a Veteran the VA may pay you to care for them. contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission or the VA and find out what programs are available. Very good possibility that dad will have a % of "service connected disability". There may be funds available such as VA Aid and Attendance as well as other programs. This should be the first call you make.
Check with your local Senior Services they may be aware of programs that will pay you for caregiving.
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Retroactive pay, maybe impossible, I don’t know.

But if your dad has money, if you don’t need to worry about the 5-year look-back, he can gift you money. And that money can equal the compensation you feel is just. It can be a gift. There’s a limit to how much gift is tax free.

I strongly encourage you to get financially what’s just, for your past work. You deserve every bit of it.
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Offer it up.
They are family. They cared for you, nowits your turn . . .
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Abby2018 Jul 2023
Hmm......she obviously has "offered it up" for three long years.....with many more to go. Caregiving is an enormous responsibility that eventually strips away any resemblance of a normal life. She not only deserves compensation but is entitled to it (in at least some capacity). To equate taking care of ones parents because "they cared for you" is not only simplistic but insulting. Parents decline and it cannot be compared to a growing child who learn the skills of self sufficiency. No. matter how much you love your parents it eventually will become mind numbing and devastating emotionally.
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If your dad is a veteran, I would contact Patriot Angels. They are a third party organization who can do a free consultation with you to determine benefit eligibility for your dad - or you as caregiver for him.

If your dad is eligible for monthly benefits and you want to use Patriot Angels to apply on your behalf, they charge and one-time fee.

After wasting a year trying on my own to secure benefits for my mother as the widow of a veteran, I decided to use Patriot Angels. My mother is now receiving Aid and Attendance monthly, so the fee was well worth it. The VA also paid retroactively from the application date on April 1.
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As everyone else has told you, retroactive pay will only happen if your parents can pay you. Consider getting your CNA or GNA certificate. It is a short course and will qualify you as a paid caregiver at a higher rate from any third party payor.
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