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This case confirm my theory that human beings begin their life bald, with no teeth and crawling, and that their life's end is the same, bald, no teeth and crawling.
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Isthisrealyreal Mar 2022
We come into this world in diapers, if we leave in depends, we stayed too long!
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Who's to say what's 'right' or 'wrong'? And who cares what 'eyebrows' get shot up in the process of mother crawling around? Your SIL is the POA here and as such, in charge of her mother's care & management. If you want the relationship destroyed beyond repair, start pointing your finger at what she's doing 'wrong' here, not really knowing all the details except for 'MIL is crawling' and getting worked up over IT.

My mother fell 95x while living in Assisted Living & Memory Care. If she were able to 'crawl' to avoid having taken those 95 falls, I would have been very, very happy to have agreed to having her crawl, to be honest with you. So there you see the other side of the coin: were you to know ALL of the gory details of this situation, you may in fact change your mind about MIL crawling around.

When my dear father was wheelchair bound, he would fall out of bed once in a while........and he'd crawl to the bathroom rather than call for help. He'd do that out of embarrassment & in an attempt for independence. Was I 'happy' that he was crawling to the bathroom? Not really. But I also understood why he was doing it, so I didn't make a big deal about it.

So, unless you want to take over the care & management of your MIL, I'd back away from this situation and let your SIL deal with the matter as she sees fit. Unless you see your MIL being openly neglected or obviously suffering in some way, I'd let it go. Don't fix it if it isn't broken.

Best of luck.
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This would be truly awful for old knees, already much impaired by age. Speak to her doctor this week to see what might be done, or what he thinks of this option. There are some knee pad things but unfortunately they constrict and bind in the knee area with an increase in clots, something you also cannot risk. Best of luck.
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I personally would leave this to the biological daughter and her. She’s not your own mother after all.
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In one sense, it is okay to "let" the person do whatever comes naturally to her - it's certainly overstepping matters to stop her against her own wishes, at least.

But you're right in supposing that eyebrows would shoot up all over the place. Why is MIL crawling? - from where to where, for what purpose, involving what risks, and isn't there surely a better way of supporting her mobility?
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