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Stop answering every time she calls. Voice mail is wonderful. She may leave you 10 messages in an hour, but you can check it on your own time.

The facility has your contact info. If something is truly wrong, they'll let you know. I know you can block/unblock numbers on an iPhone. Could block her number at night and unblock it during the day? 

Pure speculation here, but given the mental illness... Mom wants to be waited on and babied. She gets care in AL of course, but it's not the one-on-one, everything-done-for-her kind of care. She might have some narcissistic tendencies. The nausea (which she may have willed herself to have?) and "oh, I just can't go on" are her tactics that she's hoping will get her out of AL.
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Your mother sounds really ill. She needs to see her GP if she has not already. She likely is calling you as she wants a solution. I would say, many elderly do commit suicide. It isn't for us to decide what is an amount of suffering she should be able to tolerate. If it is not medically induced and it is anxiety related (which it could be), ask GP to arrange for her to see Sr.'s Mental Health in your area. Many times people are not being adequately treated for their anxiety depression if they are elderly. Do not expect her to suck it up. Show compassion and kindness always and take her to see her Dr. Rule out the obvious first.
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lealonnie1 May 2022
Did you miss this part of the OP's post? "I have had her to every kind of doctor and done every kind of test and there is nothing physically wrong. Her physical health has not declined and she is on 3 mental health medication."
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You will have to limit her calls. Tell her you will accept her call early a.m. and one in the p.m. And that others will not be accepted. You have checked her out and that's great. You recognize she has mental issues which are not new and that is good.
I suggest you read Liz Scheier's book Never Simple. It will tell you how much worse it "could be". You will feel lucky. Mental health issues are always complicated, there is little support, and even when there is good support and the right "drug cocktail" is found, it seldom works for long. I know that sounds hopeless, but you have been here a while and know, and you will need to accept that you have to protect yourself. You will have to set limits no matter WHAT the repercussions are.
Best of luck out to you.
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She wants to die because she nauseated? That sounds a little over the top.

A lot of meds will cause nausea. There are also a lot of meds that can allay the nausea.

Choose your battles. Block the incessant calls and take only the ones you can mentally handle. She sounds a bit of a drama queen, and that is one thing that is really hard to deal with.
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Is a side effect of any of those meds nausea?

Can you check with her pharmacy about interactions?

Has she been to see an ENT?

Have you tried "SeaBands" used for seasickness?
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