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Assuming that may of these charities are sending envelopes, can you get to the mail before he does? My mom does this...she is on every charity list....we intercept the mail. Maybe talk to the people at the church and ask them not to cash his checks?
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Poor decision making is an early sign of loss of cognitive function. Im seeing this with my own parents too.
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CoraSmith: Per your profile, your father suffers from Alzheimer's disease so his cognition is not present. Be aware that elders, even ones of lucid mind (this, of course, is not your father) fall prey to charity organizations and the like 24/7. My own late mother, who was on a poverty wage of $1,237/month willingly gave away her last $5.00 to many such organizations until I moved in with her and put a halt to that. It is appalling that you and he are living with raw sewage in the home! As a result, you both are susceptible to getting quite ill if this isn't remedied. You should retain an elder law attorney immediately to go about the process of using your Power of Attorney as your father's agent for remediation of the house as presently no human should be living with raw sewage and other things in the house that are FAR PAST livable conditions.
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Sounds like you need to talk to an attorney asap to find out what your responsibilities and legal rights are. Ask his MD / his medical provider to test / diagnosis him, which may be necessary for you to move forward, legally. If you haven't done this already, I question why not? In other words, what are you waiting for? You are the POA agent and you are the Executor. You need to learn what you need to do with these designations - and when. Are you intimidated by your Dad?

Moving out sounds like a good idea. Although, does this mean your dad will be alone? Will he allow a caregiver to assist him? How does he feel about you leaving?

Sounds like you need to assert yourself - stand up to your dad and get the repairs done (before things get worse, which it will). If you do not have a legal standing, he will need to decide how to live. You cannot do for him what he won't do for himself, unless you can make decisions, legally, on his behave.

If you do not take control now - the house may continue to breakdown and then what - ? Is your dad waiting for it to cave in ? That he doesn't seem to care about the condition of the house would call into question his mental functioning; sounds like your dad is unable to make these needed decisions and instead rationalizes leaving $ to you/his family. Yes, the floor could cave in. There could be rot / water, etc. or worse. Waiting will certainly make the situation worse.

Your dad cannot continue to live in an unsafe home. Find out what legal rights you have and get the house repaired. He needs to be in a safe structure / foundation whatever the cost. Right? I agree, you need to leave. And he may need to be in an apt for a few months while the house is getting repaired. Something needs to change - and soon.

Gena / Touch Matters
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