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Thank you emjo23. I do believe she is OCD and bipolar or just not right. I gave her strict limits with my words and deeds but she does not hear anything. And you can not deal with a mentally ill person like you can if they were normal. I have suggested that she please get a computer to take up her time but her son said she does not want that. She has a one track mind and that is too watch my every move. I truly believe she sits by the window and monitors everything and has her eyes on my home 24/7. If I have guests she will call to see who they are. When her son tells her we are going out of town she always says how bad the weather is going to be and then frets and frets and she use to get mad because I did not call her when I got there or check in with her while on the road..My own mother and grandmother never put so many demands on me, not even my husband and kids so this has me so irritate. I told her I would not be checking in with her and again she said 'Well, I just care'. I have suggested to her to volunteer somewhere anywhere and she said her back and knees hurt so bad that the can't. If she has so much pain how on earth does she have the energy to follow and stalk me? My neighbor doing this to me has me rethinking on how I interact with other people and is making me worried about this happening again in the future. This experience is going to make me move faster when ever I think I will be around another vampire.
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((((((Hugs)))))). This woman is mentally ill and that can be very difficult to deal with. She needs strict limits and may need a restraining order. Think of it this way - if you were her, what do you think would be best for you? She needs professional help. Getting the police involved could be the beginning of that. If moving is a option and nothing else works, I would consider it. Blessings
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Thank you all for your comments. BTDT14. I am a crisis minister not a preacher and she wants nothing to do with our Catholic Church. She has told me many times that my Bible is not the right Bible and no way would I put her on anyone from my Church, they would excommunicate me. Someone on here wrote that no matter how much I do for her it will never be enough and that goes for anyone that will offer to help her. She will drive that person bat ass crazy.. JessieBelle, I have told her with words and deeds to leave me alone and she cries and says 'I care'. Since I came back from visiting my mother I have even put more energy into protecting my privacy. I spent one week at my mother's nursing home running around taking care of my mother and her friends and I will be damned if I come home to my home and work and get harassed by my neighbor. BTDT14, the old lady does not want me as her daughter she wants me as her free employee, my own mother would not ask that much of me. JessieBelle I was honest with her and telling her I don't have time for her anymore. She thinks my phone is her call button like from a hospital room. BTDT14, Her kids are nice they are wore out too. The woman is rude, invasive and intrusive. I have no idea why they will not put her into assisted living, I guess I know why, she probably refuses and continues to be a pain in the a** where ever she goes.
The ladies son and I have talked some. He tells me when they are going out of town so I can keep an eye on their home and I told him when we would be out of town so he would keep an eye on my home. The old lady went bonkers when she found out I was leaving out of town, the calling and knocking got so bad that my husband said 'I am willing to move, it really is awful.' She desperately wants me to check in and out with her with every move I made.. I have faced her and told her she was too much for me and it goes over her head, she truly does not understand. Blannie,I have rehearsed your very words and will use them. I believe that she thinks she is being good neighbor wanting to know what is going on in my life. I have had the same neighbors for 30+ years and we talk a little when outside and get caught up on each other's life but I do not get the constant phone calls or knocks on my door. I love open friendly people, I love people stopping over even unannounced but this old lady things are different. She does not want me as her daughter she wants to control me. I do not blame her daughter for moving out of town and I think the son can't take much more since he is gone even more. No matter what the business, I will not engage with her. The only reason I opened that bag of worms was because it was genuine business that I am involved in with our neighborhood, she wormed herself in again with that but I am working even more hard to put the lid on it..Thanks for letting me type out my anguish. It does help and it will come to an end soon.
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Maybe, HER Children are A**holes. Ignore Her. She's Bored, Lonely. Maybe, as a Preacher, YOUR Church Could Take Her On, As A - Project-
Various Church Members Each, a different day...maybe a couple a day...A Literal List Of Things That DO Have To be Done That Maybe the Teens In Your Church Could handle, like raking leaves. Maybe, take it as a compliment. She Wishes YOU Were Her Daughter...........Rally Your Crisis Troops...Help The Lady Out...
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I would tell her the truth: Neighbor, you are making my life miserable. You are stalking me. My husband and I are actually talking about moving because you won't leave us alone. Please do not bother me anymore.

Then do not talk to her anymore. Period. Not a friendly nod. Not a good morning. Nothing. It's terrible to have a neighbor stalking you from h*ll.
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Can't you block her phone number? That should be a simple task to do. No need to unplug your answering machine. And when she comes over to talk, simply say in calm, authoritative tone, "I can't talk, I'm busy" and go on about your business. Walk to the other side of the yard. Be CONSISTENT in ignoring her. DO NOT ENGAGE. You said in a previous response you were consistent (and doing OK) until you weren't.

The strongest kind of conditioning known to man is intermittent reinforcement. Which is what you're giving her every time you engage with her. You go long periods of non-engagement and then you engage. And the whole cycle starts over again. You're training her to keep trying, because she knows if she tries long enough and with enough attempts, you will engage with her again. You've done it over and over.

Why does she get a pass because she's an old woman? If she murdered someone, would she be allowed to do that because she's old and lonely? What if she was a 45 year old man doing what she's doing? Would you let that continue? Just because she's lived a longer life and is a woman, I don't see why that should allow her to engage in such destructive behaviors. She's still accountable for her actions.

If it was me, I'd calmly tell her that her continued attempts to contact you - in light of your continued attempts to stop any contact, have moved into the harassing realm and if she calls you, comes into your yard, or knocks on your door, you'll contact the police to get a temporary restraining order against her. And I'd do it. You don't have to be aggressive. You can be calm and reasoned when you tell her that. No need to explain because she won't get it anyway. Or have an attorney send her a letter to that effect. That might scare both her and her son into leaving you alone.
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Dof4, I think you are being haunted. But ghosts are not real: confront them, and they vanish. Go and rake your leaves, and if you are intruded on ask your neighbour to leave you alone, please. Keep it simple, and calm, but say those words.

Your neighbour's behaviour is intrusive and disproportionate. Don't allow your reactions to her to become so. Carry on as you would regardless of her. What's the worst that she can do?
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Yesterday I unplugged my answering machine.. All these changes I have to make because an 84 year old woman will not leave me alone. Curtains, schedule changes, raking the leaves in the dark and getting my nerves upset but they are tiny steps to stop the crazy madness. As soon as I can I will put a double layer of curtain in my office window because my noisy neighbor's eye sight is so good that she can see that my light is on through the first curtains. Yesterday she was knocking on my door. I have not answered my phone so she comes to the door. I did not answer the door either. I need to go outside and rack my leaves but hold back because I do not want her to know I am home. What she is telling me with her obnoxious behavior is 'YOU WILL NOT IGNORE ME'. She plays old people games and I have had it. I have to write this out to work the nerve up to be more aggressive. Some of you would have already told her off but I am not there yet but close. She is not kind or comforting and overly religious but not spiritual in anyway. Since I am a bereaved mother I have one foot on earth and the other on a spiritual realm and can not believe an 84, she maybe 85 now person has gone to Church her entire life and has no spirituality? She maybe be a living poltergeist already. It does feel like a haunting but from a human. Weird that I wrote that but it make sense. Today is cold and rainy but I need to rake leaves and I want to do that in peace.
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Thank you vstefans for your insight and for sharing about the person in your life. I went out of town and on the way home I was talking to my husband about my noisy neighbor and the volume of my voice went up and before long the hair was standing up on the top of my neck and as I write this I look at my caller ID and there she is again. Before I left to go out of town she was acting like it was an emergency to get a hold of me. She invited herself over saying I will help you put up your Christmas things etc I will help you with things at your home. I kept saying no I had it covered.. I said NO about 6 times and she still kept bugging me. I do not want to check in and out with her when I go somewhere. She knew I was going to travel up north so fretted about the weather non stop. She goes to Church twice a week but does not understand that if you truly believe you do not have to fret so much and especially over a neighbor woman. My husband was home for a few days and said to me 'She is really annoying, just say the word and we can move'. My husband is a very giving Christian man and she even drives him crazy. She knows when he is home and is not quite so bad but this time he took a few days off and she did not know and was her full irritating self to me.
I just got back from visiting my almost 91 year old mother. She is not doing so well. I always include her friends and roommate in our activities so when I get home I want peace and quiet and I do not want to be ordered around by another old person. I am wore out from my mother's demands and care but I love her so much that I can over look a lot of it. I do not want to take on my neighbor today or any day. It is dark and rainy so she can see my office light on from her bedroom and can't believe I won't pick up the phone. I need double curtains! Vstefans I have no idea what rewards would come from me doing this over the long haul? I see no long haul. I just think of last Christmas eve and having her over for dinner and how she made that day so miserable. I noticed her son is gone more often after work, I am sure he can't hardly take it. Out loud prayer Please God send this woman somewhere to where she can feel loved and needed. Anywhere! I still have not worked up the courage to tell her off but my patience are thin after being around my mother and I bet if she pushed me hard enough I could do it and not feel bad.
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OK, but it seemed like you are still writing here to us because what's was going was driving you nuts and detroying your life! If it's the best solution, it's the best solution. I actually do have one of these people in my life...and have chosen to keep them there too. There are rewards to doing this over the long haul. She considers me a good friend and the friendship has its moments of actual reciprocation, though mostly I want to hit my head on the wall, especially when I get one more "how are you" precursor to asking for gas money or groceries again, inappropriate phone call, or invite to play something on facebook. Mine actually changes her phone number so many times I can't even keep call blocking her. I'm actually happy for you and for her that you decided the annoyance was not as "terminal" for you as you might have been feeling when you first wrote again!

And, Daughter of 4, the one thing neither of us can do is "fill her needs" !! They CAN make us FEEL them though - very apt typo there. Most of these felt needs are WANTS and not needs anyways. They are inherently insatiable, and both of our "Donkey" people would happily jump at the chance for us or someone like us to adopt them, take care of them, center our world around them in a way that would not be healthy even for our own child, not to mention totally financially supporting their entire family... :-) Love and limits can and should come from the same person, IMHO.
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*Fill her needs*
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I look back and I am not wishy-washy. I asked my husband if he thought I was and he said H*ll no. I talked it over with my husband in great detail and I think he understands the full picture. Unless YOU yourself have been on the receiving end of a next door neighbor that is elderly and OCD you really have no idea how complex this problem is. The truth of the matter is that I am assertive in most of my life but with this woman being 84 and my neighbor I have to rethink just flipping her off. I asked my husband what he would do if he was on the receiving end. He said he would do just like I was doing, keeping things civil but at bay. My experience in life has been that when someone gives you buckets of grief it is because they are ill and most likely bipolar.

I believe in the after life and even though I know I am protected by God and my son's spirit I do not want this woman to try to haunt me. I promise she will be a restless ghost. A poltergeist.

I talked it over with my husband and he said he will not give the woman or her son any more information about my schedule and that should help a lot. I will continue to be cordial to her and her son because it pains me too much to not be at least cordial. I did read the Amish Way of shunning and I did read a lot about how to get along with difficult people and how to treat them in a business type manner. When ever someone treats or talks to me in a business like matter and we are not in a business situation it always tells me that they are not wanting to be close or my friend.

I remember always treat others how you want to be treated.
I will keep telling my neighbor no politely. I will keep avoiding her. I have already told her I can't do all she asks and I will just continue in a kind business like manner. I know there is dementia in her and other things and I will pray for her. I know the situation is sick and has caused me gigantic grief and even though she is an ass to me I do not have it in me to be an ass back. I will continue to be kind and to just say no to what ever I need to. And I will in the mean time pray that I have patience and guidance from God above and I will pray hard that she will find a place to go that can feel her needs.

As I pass her house and see her light on in her house and know she is alone, it bothers me because I do not want to see anyone alone or scared. Please God send this woman to a place where she is happy and do it soon. I want to thank all of you that have posted comments of suggestions, I read them all and have decided that for my soul the best way is still with kindness.
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vstefans gets to the heart of the matter. Decide whether you want to take this annoying person to your bosom and bond with her and make her part of your life, or if you want to keep your distance from her toxicity. One or the other. Consistently.

No more wishy-washy. Pick a path. Stay on it!
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This has gone on way too long. If they really are obsessed stalkers they have repeatedly made it clear that ANY contact will be taken as their cue to resume stalking you again. Read up on the Amish custom of shunning. It seems cruel, but it is a way of providing physical care if someone is in need but communicating effecetively that the relationship has been shattered by their behavior. Praying to God that your husband would not accept a piece of pie does not seem like the kind of prayer that would get answered "sure no problem, I will take away your husband's free will and obviate any need for YOU to be uncomfortably assertive..." I know it is pretty nervy to tell anyone else what to pray or not pray for, I'm just saying this is my experience when I have done those kinds of prayers...rather startling to get a resounding "NO" but very educational, spirtually speaking.

1. Tell your husband you want to move because you can't take any more. Start packing a few boxes of knicknacks. Maybe you really don't wan't to and maybe you can't, but make the message clear that this has to stop and it is not just cute or mildly annoying. Maybe you should move if none of the options below are do-able or acceptable to you!

2. Post your house and yard No Trespassing.

3. Take out a restraining order. Give your neighbors a copy of it.

4. Setting limits is not "rude." Write that sentence one hundred times in your very best handwriting or typed in every different font on your computer and post it where you most need to see it.

5. Practice saying "We are not on speaking terms, because you call me too often, disrupt my sleep, and ask too much of me, and I need you to leave me alone now. If you do not leave I will call the police." Document the calls so you have evidence of harassment when you do call the police, because you will undoubtedly have to. Otherwise, it'll be, "why are you calling the police on a little old lady who wants to bring you a piece of pie?"

The alternative is to go ALL the way back to square one and decide that this annoying neighbor deserves a place in your home and your heart, and you will engage fully with her, and maybe try a behavior modification program where every annoying thing she says or does is ignored and only postive upbeat things are accepted; but you will keep her embedded in your life for as long as she lives.

Decide which alternative is correct - in prayer, in consultation with your husband, your pastor, anyone else you can trust, and STOP trying to pursue an ambigous course that is something in between. They are absolutely feeding off of your ambiguity. The older woman in particular is not going to be able to grasp any concept of a middle ground of brief civil contact and nothing more. Boundaries are beyond her grasp. You have probably looked down on people or judged them to be cold and selfish who have had to set these kinds of limits, but now you understand.
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You DO NOT have to be "rude" or "stern". Just be sweet as pie as you say, "Oh, no thank you (said with a BIG smile)." Or if she tries to talk, say, "Oh sorry, gotta run! Again, said with a BIG smile. You can do all of your assertion with a BIG smile. You're not being rude or stern, you're just not doing what she wants you to do. And that's your perfect right as one human being to another.

Can't you block her number? You can buy call blocker devices if your phone won't let you block it.
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I read and reread all the suggestions on here and I have done most all of them short of calling the police. Last week my noisy neighbor offered my husband and me a piece of pie while we were outside working. I said no thank you right away because that piece of pie will cost me my piece of mind. I looked at my husband and prayed he would say no but he said yes. Since he has never been on the receiving end of stalking he does not get it. As he took the piece of pie, I gave him a dirty look and said 'that piece of pie you just ate will cost me dearly' My phone rang non stop the next week as early as 8:12 A.M. I was pissed. I knew she would be calling wanting to know every detail about that damn pie. I did not answer the phone. It has been too cold outside so I have not even went outside to work in the yard. Her son has been taking day trips to other areas and she is alone and calls here constantly. Someone wrote on here that I am just a warm body to her and that helps me move along better. The holidays are coming up and I remember last year when she was my new neighbor I had her over for meals. I remember feeling worn out and not feeling well each time she left. I cut her slack because her knee and back hurt but still I was completely wore out. Like I said in one of my posts, our meal time at my home is filled with laughter, fun and jokes but we all felt she put the damper on it. My deepest prayer again is that soon she will go into an assisted living center where she can be social and have help with what ever hurts her. I have no idea why anyone would want to be alone in their home day in day out. My mother fought living in a nursing home constantly and then once she got there she thought it was nuts that she did not go sooner.. My nature will not let me be rude to this woman and I am working on it. I know some of you said I was not being rude, she is the one invading my privacy but when I try to be stern the words are stuck because I so much don't want to hurt her feelings. Please God give me the strength to stand up to this crabby old woman.
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I was consistent until this neighborhood thing came up and then bamm right back where I started from. I keep my car in the garage at all times. There are times my neighbor calls and says' I know you are home' when I don't answer the phone. I have said hi and bye in the same sentence but she still does not get it. I am tired of it. One of my outdoor jobs has ended until next May and my neighbor knows this and I am positive she has a list of stuff she thinks I need to be doing..I hate that I feel I have to leave town to get some real peace. My home is my castle and I will work hard again to keep it like that. Things stopped for a while and then reared it's ugly head again all over some neighborhood business.. Just because we are discussing business should not give her the right to call me non stop. And if she calls me again early in the morning I will have her number blocked. My family knows that I have restless nights from time to time where I don't fall asleep until 3 A.M. so I need to sleep in and my noisy neighbor used to call me and wake me up as early as 7:30 A.M. for no other reason than she thought I needed to be awake for the day. I will gain all my privacy back. I just can't go through this again... And I won't.
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I have one of these neighbors. The other thing I would like to add is that she probably checks if you are home based on if your car is in the driveway. If you have a garage, use it. And again don't be afraid to not answer the door or the phone. Hugs.
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I don't understand why asking for privacy and telling your neighbors you can't talk is rude. You don't have to be nasty, just be CONSISTENT in saying, "Can't talk now. Bye." Or "I have to go, bye." Why do you feel other people have a right to totally ignore your wishes and desires? Aren't your desires as important as theirs?

Why do you think you OWE them time and attention? They clearly have no consideration for you. They may have mental issues. Fine. But it's not your circus and not your monkey. Let the professionals deal with them. They're living where they are by a fluke of circumstance. You don't owe them anything, other than to keep your home and yard in good repair and to report anything odd/unusual to the police. You don't owe them mental health counseling or tender loving care. Say "hi" with one breath and "bye" with the next. You just need to be consistent.
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Country mouse, I have thought about a sign but felt they would ignore it and try the telephone. If I don't have a sign they may think I am not home but in reality I think she stays right there by the window so she won't miss one thing that I do.
I have been rude to my neighbor and it seem to hurt me more since that is not my true character. It makes me sad that I am being pushed to act nasty and that is not who I am as a person. I so wish they had something or someone in their life to occupy their time. And I agree 2000% that they are invading my privacy. If I look at it as a severe illness it makes it a bit easier and in reality it is illness. Tonight I will ask my husband to stop telling them my business so they can't keep tabs on me anymore. The sad part is that we live in a large city and I really need my neighbors to keep an eye on my home and know a little bit about my schedule so we can help each other out. There is an invisible current that I feel around them where they suck the ever lasting life out of me, even just standing close to them I can feel it. I am actually wore out when I see them or hear their voices. Around my friends I am an open book, I am not secretive about anything and I live authentic.. This is a new lifestyle for me but I really have no other choice than to be secretive and avoiding.. I stay busy all the time I work hard in the yard.. My neighbor has found an in with me and that is through the work I do for the community. She just does not get why I would volunteer my hours and not come over to her home and be her slave.. I will say this again, if she was nice or kind or fun I would make some time but she is none of that.. I was raised with a grandmother that was filled with love and kindness and complete trust in God. She was laid back and sweet. It is hard for me to be around anyone no matter what their age if they are up tight, nervous, rude or what ever.. And they are my neighbors.... My own mother age 90 has taken a downward move and not doing so well. I will visit her in a short few weeks. When she passes I do not want my neighbor to know this, all it means to her is that I have all that time to take care of her needs.. I am at peace with my mother and if she is ready to go she is ready. It may not be for several years but her and my slate is clean.
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Dof4, you seriously need to draw a line with these people and stop allowing your big heart to get in the way. I know how it is, I'm the same way - hard to say no, don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But over the years, especially since I started working from home in the past few years, I have learned to grow a pretty tough shell.

My family knows I work pretty much non-stop all week long, even on the weekends, so they know if I say I'm busy, I'm not kidding. (Unfortunately, that doesn't trigger any "help" response in them, so I don't get any help with Mom, because they figure I'm here all the time anyway, I can take care of her without help, apparently.) We don't have nosy neighbors, thankfully, but we do have door-to-door salesmen, politicians and religious organizations that apparently can't read. I have a small, unobtrusive "no soliciting" sign on the door - but I guess it needs to be bigger. I used to open the door and politely listen to their spiel before telling them I wasn't interested and getting them to leave. Then I realized it was taking up too much of my work time to be polite. Now I let the sign (and the huge, raging, barking dog attacking the door) talk for me. If they don't get THAT message, then I open the door and tell them to READ THE SIGN. Still doesn't always work, believe it or not - especially with politicians.

You may have to resort to being almost rude to get your point across. It's not in my nature to be that way, and I'm sure it's not in yours, but you are going to have to do *something* to stop this - your posts make it very apparent that this is not a healthy situation for YOU, let alone your neighbors. They need to find something or someone else to obssess over. It's not healthy for them to be obssessing over you, and you need to stop allowing it. Stop all communication with them, don't answer the door or the phone when you know it's them - ever - and eventually they *might* stop. Every time you allow them back into your life, they simply ramp right back up again, and that's how it's going to be forever, until you put a stop to it. Regardless of OCD or whatever other illness they may have going on, they have no right to know your every movement. It's an invasion of privacy.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I've learned that working from home means people think you are available 24/7 to do their bidding or visit or whatever - you have to grow a shell around yourself in order to protect your privacy sometimes.
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Dof4, I used to work from home, I understand exactly what it's like. "You're not busy, are you?" Well, it's eleven in the morning during the working week, so… No! Why would I be busy???

Have you considered putting a "Please do not disturb" sign on the front door during office hours? You never know, they might read it. Well, they ***might***...
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5 months have passed since I first posted about my annoying neighbor. I have to keep things at bay because she is constantly wanting to get back into my life. I am active in my community and she knows this and is using that as an excuse to ask me questions about things. UGH. Now she is back to calling 3 times per week. My neighbor and her son have to know my every move. I am convinced it is OCD. Thank God I don't do anything shady that I have to hide. I work, go to Church and do volunteer work at several places, how can that be so exciting? They both are highly intense, talking about the yard is as intense as if they talked about heart surgery. They are both so stuffy all the time, it wears me out just watching how up tight they are. They both question what I do where I go and what time I come and go. Other than stalking it is a form of OCD. When I watched the movie 'The Aviator' and saw how he acted with his OCD it put things into perspective. The neighbor and her son are not as OCD about my husband or daughter but they both HAVE to know my every move. That is how I am looking at it, it is a form of severe OCD. When I do talk I am short and to the point. A few week back my husband was in the garage and listened to how they talked to me and started laughing. My husband said 'I truly believe it is a severe form of OCD where they have to know everything you do.' My husband thinks it is funny because he has never been on the receiving end of something like that.... Then lately my older male neighbor down the street that I have had problems with in the past is knocking on my door more frequent. It is hard when you work from home and people do not think you have real job. Again I just look out the door and not answer. I think my 84 year old neighbor really has not let go completely and keeps trying. My neighbor brought over cake and I let her in. Big mistake. ... Big mistake on my part to open my door and allow her in. UGH. Now she is gearing up again for bug a booing and I will have to reset. The noisy neighbor questions my husband about things and he just tells her my schedule without thinking. I have to have a huge talk with him. Since he has never been on the receiving end of a major bug a boo he has no idea that she is calculating my time. UGH Again. Back to having to reinforce my stance. Thank you all for letting me post this agony to get it out.
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Glad to hear you are continuing to assert yourself and claim your peace! Well done!
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Back in May my relationship with my 83 yr old neighbor was awful. She since has tried calling my home but I make it a quick call, she still wants to talk when she sees me outside and I am cordial but make it quick but things are ok between us now. I just can't have her start up again over the winter. I am usually a very friendly person but felt my spirit completely drained when around my neighbor. I really enjoy helping others and I do often but her demands were way off the charts and were taking so much of my day. She truly felt I was her free employee since I did so much for her when she first moved in. My neighbor wanted that everyday chit chat she wanted me to be a person to drink coffee with and chat for hours on end but I am not that kind of person and I am busy with my job. I know if I do not stay on top of it we would be right back where we were.. Life is so much better since I have my peace of mind back.
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Hmmm. You drew a line in the ground and somehow they think it got washed away by the passage of 3 weeks time. Better dust it off and make it a little deeper this time.

Hugs, too...and I know how this sucks; I sense that having to be firm and a little unpleasant with others to set the appropriate limits is not the sort of thing either of us relishes doing, at all, let alone doing AGAIN. Give me a choice and I'll be the soft-hearted good cop every time, but push me to the wall, and I can usually do what needs done, but I'll hate every minute of it.
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Update. Neighbor took 3 weeks to not contact me and then today the phone rang. UGH. I have worked hard checking my calls to not answer her call but the called ID in the kitchen is not working and I picked it up. First thing she said was 'I know you are home' and then started to talk non stop about her damn back. Yes I feel sorry for anyone that has back pain because I have had it too but coming from someone that has already taken so much of my time I just could not take it. Luckily my daughter called and I got off the phone with her quickly. The woman has no social skills. I guess she thought 3 weeks was long enough. When I heard her voice on the end of the phone my stomach jumped because I do not want to go through days and days being hounded and bothered. I just can't take it. I thought it was done but I guess not.
Also today my neighbor down the street that is bothersome came over. My daughter was visiting me so she let him in. All he talked about was his back and all the surgeries. I do feel sorry for him too but I can't have him around either because he has acted inappropriate. I am staying so busy that I don't have time for people to drain me but they still try to find a way. My neighbor still watches every move I make. I put curtains up in my office so I bet she is confused about when my light comes on.. I know it was hard for her to go 3 weeks not calling me but she needs to go the rest of her life not calling me. Boring and non stop rambling and having to know my every move is something I do not want to go through again with her.. No not this again.
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Ha Eddie! I felt like I was going to have a psychotic episode. I have read that some older people have to follow or shadow you because they just don't want to be alone. This was hard for me too because I did not want to be followed so closely by my neighbor. There are so many older folks that make friends in the nursing and assisted homes with other folks that need to follow or shadow. My deepest prayer is that my elder neighbor can go into a nursing home where she can have regular visitors and people visiting so she does not feel so alone. My neighbor shadowing me constantly was very grieving, then her getting mad when I did not tell her every single place I was going and what I was doing 24/7. From now on I will stand ground faster so things like this will not happen in my life.. Never do I want a situation like this in my future.
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Studying the Bible? Manure. I'm with Garden Artist on this one. I'd have had a psychotic episode already, and told that nagging lady to get out of my a__. I'm also a compassionate and understanding person, but when I'm not at peace in my own home the line has to be drawn somewhere.
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Another up date. Noisy neighbor has been keeping her distance. I still have not worked in my front yard until more time passes. Now the old guy down the street is driving by more, knocking on my door and calling my home phone. I am very careful not answering my phone and door and have ignored all his calls and coming over. The sad part is that 25 years ago the older guy and I were friends and went to Church together. He use to be a great guy, energetic, and fun to talk with. Now all he talks about is his aches and pains and what each and everyone of his doctors have said to him. He is only in his early 70s and really beat down. His wife is in her late 60s and does nothing but watch TV and read books. The old guy told me that his wife's biggest dream was to just stay home and read. The old guy and his wife both once held top positions in their line of work and were active in many activities. I just pray that my life does not get so boring that I become a bore to others. I have been laid up with illness and pain so I know what that is like, I have worked with hospice so I also know what that is like but so many of these people are so deeply unhappy with what they are doing. I saw a post one time that said 'Live your life so well that you don't have to take a vacation from it'. Words to live by. I truly believe if you put all your faith in your God things will fall into perfect place. I feel weird calling the old guy an old guy because he is only in his early 70s. I know a woman that is 75 and so young hearted and acting. She is beautiful, kind, giving and laughing all the time. It's hard to think that my beautiful friend and the old guy around the corner are the same age..

My deep inner peace has returned. I feel so much better without the constant calling and being interrupted by my neighbor. It was awful. It has almost been one month since my first post and I have enjoyed my peace and quiet again..And I want to continue to keep it that way too.
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