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We can’t figure this out. My MIL acts out whenever the aide shows up to care for her. She starts telling her she has to go “pee pee” “pee pee”. Aide puts her on the commode and nothing or next to nothing happens. Puts her back in the chair and a few minutes later she starts again “pee pee” “pee pee”. This has happened 18 times in an hours time. Then she keeps saying hello ... hello especially if the aide moves out of the room. The aide is threatening to quit because she’s too much of a handful to deal with. Once the aide leaves she STOPS both needing to go and calling out. I wonder she’s trying to frustrate the aide to get rid of her? She’s made it clear that she wants her son to take care of her needs. Anyone else dealing with their LO trying to sabotage the help caregivers get from the Aides?

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she’s scared . Wants help
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Sit with aide watching mom on pot. let her stay there until she feels the urge. Put her hand in a warm tub of water. sing to her, or you, let her read the daily news on how to get someone who tells aide she needs to pee, but desides its not the right time. I think you can find these books in the childrens section of the library.
while she is sitting there, tell her she may have to go to doc to check on UTI... the URGE TO PEE IS DIFFICULT IF YOU HAVE A UTI, AND THAT CAN CAUSE ISSUES IN THE BLOOD. SO, Mom, if youcannot go, it must be related to UTI. Tomorrow the doctor with antibiotics hopefully. Hopfully you are not hooked into an IV for fluids and antibiotics... once it gets into the blood,,, that is a WHOLE NEW BALL GAME MOM, AND WE CANNOT LET IT DO THAT...YOU MAY END UP IN THE HOSPITAL A COUPLE DAYS... GEEZ MOM,,, DRINK MORE CRANBERRY JUICE NOW... GET THE PEE STREAMING. I AM WORRIED YOU HAVE A uti,,,,, AND THAT can be very scary... Are you taking enough vitamin C and water?
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Seems odd. Is something else going on? Has she been checked for a UTI?

Was her son her primary caregiver before?
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Pegshere Sep 2020
Yes, he’s basically been her caretaker other than the minimal help he gets from his wife and grown daughter. She’s had many UTI’s so they can pretty much tell when she has one and this doesn’t seem to be one. Seems more deliberate because she mostly seems to do it when the aide is there and a few times when she seemed to be seeking attention.
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