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You did nothing wrong. Nothing. My 92-year-old father in law passed away two months ago. I was relieved and continue to be relieved that his suffering is over and he had no pain at the end. Feeling guilty implies you did something wrong-which is not true. Your mother was 92, in poor health. There is absolutely nothing you could have done or should have done. The dying process is a natural one that happens to everyone who lives to be elderly. She was never going to live forever. Her time on earth came to a natural end. Getting your life back is a blessing! My father in law lived with us for a year before he went to the nursing home for four months. I know how very hard it is to have a life when you're caretaking. Take your time grieving but do NOT beat yourself up or question your love and loyalty to your mother. You obviously loved her very much and part of loving someone is letting them go when it's clearly their time.
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Charlie, my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family for the passing of your Mother.

I was doing the same type of thinking as you were as I watched my Mom [98] pass. It was a combination of much relief and sadness mixed together. My life had been turned upside down and I was exhausted through this journey of old age, and the final 3 months of accelerated dementia. My Mom wasn't the person she once was, very bright with a sense of humor... all of that was gone and she was a shell of herself.... it was like, who is that person?
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As she was dying, you wanted her in a better place, those are good thoughts. I held mom's hand and told her "There's a big party! They are all waiting for you to get there!!" You give them permission to go, that is good!
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