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Am I wrong for wanting to date someone, I am so lonely...

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This decision must be made between you and your conscience. My husband and I have not been intimate for about 10 years, but he is very aware and cognizant of what’s going on. I am an “all or nothing” person. I could not engage in a romantic relationship with another man while still married to my husband. My caregiving for my husband would truly suffer. I’m not cagey enough to pull it off in secret. I would not leave my husband alone for a few hours or even overnight so I could be with another man. What if something happened? Even with his approval, I just couldn’t do it.

If I should ever find someone else, it will be when I am free and clear of restrictions.
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She is so young. Who cares for her when you work? This is such a touchy subject. Some will say "for better or worse" this is the "worse". If she had Dementia and in a Nursing facility, I would say OK. You have already lost her. But she is still at home. If she is aware, how are you going to explain your nights out? Then its the other person. Will they be able to except that you aren't free. Its just a "friendship" thing and lets be honest here, with benefits probably.

I really understand where ur coming from. We all need to feel someone cares. I would start by joining a group of some sort. Maybe a book club. Take a class. Find a support group. Little steps. Whatever you do will have to be done with a clear conscience. Good Luck.
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I am so sorry, this must be hard.

In my personal opinion, I think this would be fine. By that I mean that if I were unable to provide companionship to my husband I would want him to be able to find it elsewhere. As long as he didn't abandon me.

But it is a very personal decision. Is your wife aware? How would she feel about it? If there is deception involved, either with your wife or somebody you date, I think that would be wrong. But if your wife is unable to comprehend this, then it wouldn't hurt her to seek other companionship. I have heard of many situations where the spouse of someone with dementia is able to find companionship elsewhere.

How about getting companionship in other ways. Join a square dance group, a birding group, etc. Something where you can be around other people (including women).
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