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I can't take care of myself and need help with every day tasks. Like feeding myself, taking meds, cleaning myself personal, etc..

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Daisy, can you tell us more? Where are you living? Are you on disability? What are the sources of your income? Who has been helping you before now? Why has that stopped?

We'll need a little more information in order to make suggestions.
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Within the past year I've had heart bypass surgery and had 2 veins from each of my legs used. Since then my legs and feet keep swelling so much that my diabetic shoes can't be worn. I've recently been in the ER at Rhode Island hospital where my doctors' are. They had since sent me to a rehab at Somerset Ridge Center in Somerset Ma so that I may get stronger. Well it doesn't seem to be getting better, stronger. I can't hold my bodily functions and need help with preparing my food, meds, and laundry-can't climb stairs to basement(washer/dryer). I'm in Swansea Ma renting a room, collecting SSDI, 65 yrs old, single. Please i need to get something, I don't have any living family, only child.
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Daisy, you need to tell your doctors today, right now, that you need home care ASAP. They can arrange for home health monitoring and care. You can also call the local Area Agency on Aging or do an online search for home care agencies to help with the nonmedical aspects, such as laundry.

Also ask the AAA how to contact the local Meals on Wheels; for a nominal cost they can bring meals to you 5 days a week, and provide a few extra for the weekend if that's part of the specific program in your area.

Does the landlord of the home in which you're renting know of your limitations? Have you discussed with him/her if there's any help available for you?

I'm not familiar with the intricacies of SSDI, but if you have a caseworker, contact him or her.
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Daisy, have you asked your doctor if the edema is to be expected given the removal of the veins, and/or if you're developing lymphedema?
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DaisyDukey, I am confused by your profile. It says that you are taking care of someone who lives in Assisted Living who has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Is this another person, or are you referring to yourself?
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Freqflyer I'm confused too..

In rehab?
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Hello Ms. A.,
TALK
TO
YOUR
LANDLORD NOW! This minute, ask for help. Yes, from the landlord.
Plan B:
Call the police department, NOT 911, but the regular police dept. and explain your situation. They should know what to do, since this is an emergency.
Plan C:
You must have ONE LOCAL FRIEND...........call!!!
Plan D. Call the Agency on Aging.........

Plan E. Call the Rehab place in MA, where you were seen last and tell them what is happening to you.
PLEASE PLEASE do not let it go past TODAY! And please tell us what happens.

M88
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oooops, my comment went to DaisyDuck, not Ms. A. M88
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Ms. DaisyDucky,

This should help you:

Contact Us About Your Care

Do you have a question, concern or general feedback about the care you or a loved one received at the hospital? Please call our patient liaison office at 401-444-5817 to speak to a patient representative. Patient representatives are available Monday through Friday, 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. If your concern is urgent and outside of business hours, please call 401-444-4000 to reach the nursing supervisor on call.

M88
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So...
What happened?

M88
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Well. ?.....?.......?
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Mulata88, I was wondering how someone who can't take care of themselves, such as feeding, taking meds, etc. can type on a computer/Smartphone with no problems, excellent grammar, etc. And have a sense of humor with the screen name :)

I don't know if this person was pretending to be the patient or not. We have seen similar postings like this a couple of months ago.

Hope Daisy can come back to clarify.
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Wow, you guys sure are suspicious. Why would you assume that someone who can't get up and down stairs to do her own laundry can't have a witty sense of humor? A person who can't get a meal together can't type on a computer?

I recall how useless I felt when I had undiagnosed diabetes. I had a neighbor go to the store for me to pick up something ready-made that I could eat. I could barely get dressed. Walking any distance was a challenge. But I could still type on the computer and kept interested people updated on my health.

So I don't automatically assume a person having extreme health problems loses her ability to type coherently and must necessarily have her grammar and wit dessert her.

Ok, maybe this is a hoax, spoof, troll -- not genuine post. Maybe. But I think it would be a lot better to take posts seriously and answer sincerely. Even if the poster isn't genuine there might be someone else who would benefit for serious replies.

I just don't have time for troll-detecting. I'll take posts at face value. I don't worry about looking foolish.
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Why dont you hire caretaker for yourself.
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I agree Jeanne. Lets assume everyone is telling the truth until proven they are not. Otherwise whats the point of this forum when you think about it.
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What happens with me is that I truly worry about the person posting an issue with urgency and desperation, and days go by and no reply.
I try to get practical useful and quick answers to posts that
I am reading.
Like with everything else, "taking it with a grain of salt".

M88
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Well the way I look at it if someone feels the need to go on an aging care forum and make up a story because they need some kind of attention thats more sad than anything else.
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