Today I went to visit my mom for Mother's Day. I live 4 hours from her. She used to live with me now she lives near my sister in an amazing Memory Care facility. Today I have cried more than I have in a very long time. The reality of the disease finally hit me hard and I am just so sad. Is there anyone out there who has experienced this recently?
next time though she may light up when she sees you when tell her (never ask her) your name she will be so happy... this is how it was with my mom.
I am also very sad doing this "long goodbye" with my dear mom...
I console myself by how predictable this disease runs its course, at different speeds, but predictable none the less. I read up on what is next to go , accept it , and weep
I've just learned to not take it personally -- it's all part of "the adventure we're on" (as my Dad calls it when his brain is on the clear side.)
4 days later she knew me - only thing to do is go with flow & don't force a memory as that will upset them more & then you have someone who will act as a 3 year old which is worse
But one day while I was there, a nurses Aide came in to help Mom and Mom called her by my first name. Oh dear.... I knew this was part of the dementia journey so I had to sadly ignored it.... [sigh].
Although my Mom had dementia she always knew me. I can't imagine how it must feel. The loss of a parent suddenly is tough but watching them fade away slowly is so hard. My heart goes out to you.