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Sister recently moved mom into her house in New York. Sister refuses to let me or my kids see mom. I suspect medical abuse and financial abuse. What can I do

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Mom is living with Brother now for over a year. For the last 5 months he refuses to let me. See or speak with mom. When I was able to see mom, I saw mom very sick with bronchitis, swollen feet from diabetes, and major dental problems. Brother refuses treatment saying mom did not need medical or dental care. I also have seen brother make very large investments in his name recently
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Thank you for everyone's help. To be clear I watched for about 5 to 6 months my brother abusing my mom. I tried to get him to do the right thing and he refuse. Lack of medical treatment, isolation and then seeing that my brother made major purchases in cash and the bank telling me that their was serious activity going on in her account not what a woman I'm her 80's with alzheimers would be doing

Now he refuses to let her see her son and grand kids and long term friends. I have tried everything up till now and I have not been ably to help my mom. Hopefully APS can help. Can department of the aging help or any other organizations. To me this is the definition of elder abuse. Mom is very wealthy and she deserves the very best care and her money should be used for her care
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Call Adult Protective Services in her location, NOW. They probably have 24 hour operator for emergencies, this is one. I think these things happen on weekend, especially long ones because those committing these offenses think response will be delayed, which would not be the case if it is an emergency.

how do you think mom feels about this? Is she competent?
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Thank you for your help. I have gone to se mom and no one answers the door. Always had a very good relationship with brother until mom got sick. Brother is isolating mom, neglecting medical care, and using moms money for his personal needs. This is not sibling rivalry, this is greed and abuse by my brother. Why isolate mom and neglect her medical care, and use her money for personal use. Is this not elder abuse?
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Just the isolation is a red flag and you need to notify the authorities. Find the APS website where your brother lives. It may have warning signs of abuse. What are you waiting for?
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Mom has advanced alzheimers. She cannot take care of herself and cannot manage her finances
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Just the isolation is a red flag and you need to notify the authorities. Find the APS website where your brother lives. It may have warning signs of abuse. What are you waiting for?
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https://www.agingcare.com/articles/elderly-abuse-neglect-warning-signs-145341.htm

check out this AC article. Do not be afraid to report to the authorities, they will keep your information confidential. Think how bad you would feel if something is going on, something tragic happens, and you did not let anyone know.
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So, is it sister or brother with mom? Your messages say both.
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Please clarify how the sister fits into the picture. When you say "taken", was she taken from your house? Were you using her money to pay your bills? How do you know she is neglected if you have not seen her?
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