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Is it called exploitation when a young person on a regular basis take money from an elderly spouse for their own personal use? The spouse is in denial.

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They're married, so no. Does the elderly spouse have dementia? Is the elderly spouse being neglected? If you have hard proof of wrong-doing (and not your opinion that you don't like what's going on) then take it to an elder law attorney to make a case for guardianship and they will assess if you have strong enough cause to pursue, but be ready to pay the attorney if you lose, and be ready to care for the elder (and pay for their care) if you win. Pursuing guardianship can be very expensive, like $10K.

If the elder did not have a medical diagnosis of dementia when they voluntarily married this young person, I don't think there's hope to rescue this person from their own bad decision.
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Could you please be more specific. Writing like this, for me anyway, it confusing. And then it causes a lot of questions that could have been avoided if a person would be more specific.

Are you married to this elderly person and a family member is taking advantage of them? Does the elderly person have Dementia or cognitive decline of some kind?

If you are married to this person why can u not stop it? And if married to this person, I would say if you can't get the person from asking for money, then maybe you can ask the police what can you do? Probably nothing if spouse is in right mind. What I would do is set up an acct of my own and have my SS put in that acct. Then talk to a lawyer to find out how you can protect your half of the assets.
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A competent spouse can give money to anyone he or she pleases to give it to.
If you are having a problem it may be an excellent idea to consider going to an attorney to find out how to legally separate your funds from your spouse. Not certain how this is done but I know it CAN be as a friend just did it.
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You'd have to meet legal standards for "exploitation". A LEO, criminal attorney, or possibly an elder law attorney can explain to you what these standards are, and how they're met.

Also, it's confusing when you indicate that the money is taken "for your own personal use." That infers that you, the OP, are getting the funds for YOUR personal use. As JoAnn observes, and I agree, your statement is confusing.

In addition, how do you know and HOW can you prove that this young person hasn't been getting the money b/c the elderly spouse decided voluntarily to assist this person? Do both the spouse and the generous person manage funds jointly? Or does the spouse manage his/her own funds? How do you know that the young person isn't using the funds for the spouse? Do you have receipts? documentation?
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