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Mom is 90, has Alzheimer’s, fell. And broke femur. She is unhappy at. A a nursing home

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Did your mom recently brake her femur? Is she in a NH for rehab right now? If so and you are unhappy with the quality of care she's receiving there you can see if she can be transferred.

Many people are not happy at a NH for a variety of reasons however in-home hands-on family caregiving is extremely challenging on many levels and should not be entered into without counting the costs. There are many seasoned caregivers on this forum who will give you an honest, real-life assessment so please do take it to heart for your own good. Your 90-yr old mom wanting to be cared for at home has no idea how difficult it probably will be on her family.

Honestly, you should look for solutions that don't require someone else to personally pay for your mother's care -- at the current cost of care this is unsustainable (even in the short-term if she requires a lot of medical help) and it robs you and your family of the ability to pay for your own self down the road. I personally don't know what Medicare will cover as I"m not on it yet.

If your mom qualifies medically and financially, Medicaid plus her SS will cover LTC. In some states there is an Elder Waiver program that will help pay for AL or MC, and not sure if it pays for all of it. Medicaid is a program run specifically by each individual state's rules so you must be careful what advice you take on this global forum.

Please provide more info so the participants can give you the best guidance possible (and your mom's home state).
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No one is happy when in a NH. Especially someone suffering from a Dementia. They like familiar places and things.

This is where you need to make a decision if its time for Mom to be placed. I will assume she is in rehab. While there have her evaluated for 24/7 care. If they say she needs 24/7 care than decisions need to be made. You can check out Medicaid for "in home" care. But they don't usually don't provided 24/7 care. Medicare usually only does in home care after a hospital stay and its temporary and not 24/7. Its usually a nurse checking in, an aide 3x a week and PT/OT so many times a week. We did have a poster say that she got help for her Mom and Aunt thru Medicare ""intermittent" care.

I would say the best thing is if Mom is determined 24/7 care, placing her and applying for Medicaid. With ALZ, her needs may go beyond your ability to care for her. Its easier to have them transferred to a NH after Rehab then to bring them home and then trying to place them.
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At 90 with a broken femur, there's not much to be happy about. It may be the best place for her though. Caring for her at home will be a major challenge.
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Check with Aging Services for state/local resources. Or take the questionnaire at benefits.gov to see what Mom's eligible for.
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