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I live with my boyfriend and his mother. We rent the house and he pays the rent. She was in a skilled nursing center for 2 weeks before her health insurance stopped paying for it. She need 24/7 care and is a fall risk. Cannot bathe or go to the bathroom on her own. She is incredibly evil to us, accusing us of stealing from her, saying she's going to destroy evrything in the house, cussing us out for no reason. We mentally can't handle her anymore, I quit my job to take care of her all day every day and she acts like I'm a monster to her. I'm sure dementia has a part to play in it. She says she's never going back to the nursing center because she hates all the staff there. How can we get her out of the house?

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Having POA is a help. Then there is a formal diagnosis of Dementia needed and that her care is now 24/7.

You could have had her evaluated while she was in Skilled nursing for 24/7 care. If 24/7 care, you could have told them she needed to remain in skilled nursing because you were not able to care for her. Rehabs/NHs cannot do "unsafe" discharges when someone is 24/7 care. If Mom has any assets they would have to be spent down. If all she has is SS and maybe a pension it has to be under your States cap. If it is, then you apply to Medicaid for her. A SW should be able to get you started but do not rely on the NH, make sure you understand the process. In my State you only have 90days to spend down, get Medicaid all info needed and get Mom placed.
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I would call adult protective services if you are in the US. You can ask to remain anonymous. They can hopefully help with resources and get her out of your house.
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Contact social services (or APS) or your local Area on Aging agency and request a social worker. I'm sorry you are in this situation and sorry you quit your job. You didn't have to do that, and it is not recommended generally. It sounds like bf's mother never should have left the nursing home. You are going to have to make it clear to the social worker that you are unable to be the caregiver anymore. I also echo Joann's advice, and she needs to get qualified for LTC Medicaid.
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