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He has become intractable. He won't take his meds without an argument. He is 76 years old. He has become obsessed with sex and porn. He has never been like this, ever! He sleeps a lot, his posture has changed, He will watch the channel 9 news loop for hours etc, etc. Where can I get help so that I know what I am dealing with! I am so angry. What is wrong with me. I also scared.

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The stroke has caused brain damage. I would get him to a neurologist to see if there are meds he can be given.
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Nothing is wrong with you. You're experiencing grief over the change you see in your hubby.

Perhaps, as JoAnn said, some meds might calm him and help him be re-directed to better activities.

My FIL also became 'obsessed' with porn. Cleaning out his condo after his death was an eye opener. He was far more into that than anyone realized. To be kind to his kids (My DH and his sister) I never told them the 'depth' of the stuff I found and destroyed. They needed to respect and remember their dad as he was, not as he became the last few months.
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Dementia/ALZ causes ISB in some people, Inappropriate Sexual Behavior, which medication can be prescribed for. Call your husband's doctor. His behavior is in line with his disease, all of it, unfortunately.

I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.

Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller 
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580

Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia. The reviews for her books are phenomenal b/c they are written in plain English & very easy to read/understand. Her writings have been VERY helpful for me.

The full copy of her book is available here:
https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtful-Dementia-Care-Understanding-Experience/dp/B09WN439CC/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468364&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-2

She also has published a workbook entitled, “It Isn’t Common Sense: Interacting with People Who Have Memory Loss Due to Dementia.”

https://www.amazon.com/Isnt-Common-Sense-Interacting-Dementia/dp/1481995995/ref=sr_1_4?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468655&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-4
 
 The 36 Hour Day is another very useful reference type book you may want to purchase; it will answer questions you have on the spot relating to DHs issues.

Teepa Snow has wonderful videos on YouTube to watch. She is a dementia expert with wonderful tips on how to deal with elders suffering from the condition. It's how you approach them that can make all the difference.

All that withstanding, you may reach the point where DH (dear/damn husband) becomes too much for you to handle at home, and he needs to be placed in Memory Care Assisted Living. Or at least sent off to daycare during the day to give YOU some respite. Or sent TO respite care for 2 weeks in a Memory Care AL while you get some rest. If it works out, then you can place him there permanently.

I used to work as a front desk receptionist at a Memory Care AL; I'd visit with wives who had no other choice but to place their aggressive dementia ridden DHs in our care. They'd come, sometimes daily, to visit, bringing snacks & small gifts. They'd get to go home to safety and no chaos, too, while their DH was cared for in our facility. There's no shame in admitting the need for such care, for BOTH of you.

You can tour some local Memory Care ALFs to see what you think. Or at least look into in home caregivers to come into your home to give YOU a break. In the meantime, call the doctor about his ISB asap.

BEST OF LUCK
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PS: I forgot to address your question about you getting angry and mad at him. Anger comes from fear and the fact that he's changed now, due to the dementia taking over his mind. He's no longer the man you know and that makes you angry AND scared, and who can blame you? Learning all you can about dementia is helpful in understand him now, and also in figuring out how to help YOU find respite and care for YOURSELF on this long journey ahead. That's really key to managing your anger and fear. Of course it will always be there to some degree b/c it's sad and frustrating to deal with the loss of a spouse like this, and what's known as 'the long goodbye' associated with dementia. I dealt with it for 6 years with my mother, and it's a long hard road. With a husband it's even worse. Sending you a hug and a prayer for peace.
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There are strike support groups in many communities. They’re for the victims and caregivers. That might help you to adjust to your new reality.
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