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He is 80 and I am 66 working full time due to a few things he did with finances! No discussion with me when he didn’t have dementia just selfishness and not caring what I thought about it. Anyway I cook dinners for him and he won’t eat them no matter what. I have stopped cooking and just buy frozen dinners. I am a good cook so it isn’t that the food is awful. All he eats now are those dinners, fruit, obsessed with peanut butter and jelly! He has high blood pressure, diabetes and high cholesterol. I end up throwing the food out which drives me crazy. When I ask why he hasn’t eaten what I cooked for him, all he has to do is heat it up while I am working, he says oh I was going to eat that tomorrow.

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Let him eat what he wants. Its not u, its the Dementia. The only worry I would have would be the diabetes. He should already be Medicaid for cholesterol and high blood pressure.

If his cholesterol medication is a Statin, I would question him being on it. Statins have been proven to contribute to Dementia. It robs the brain of the cholesterol it needs to work properly. They also effect the liver so labs should be done regularly, If his enzymes are high, he should be taken off of the medication. Members have noticed when a LO suffering from a Dementia is taken off of a Statin their cognitively seems better.
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Well--you have the blessing now of not having to fix a 'big' meal at night, when you are, no doubt, tired from work.

I buy a LOT of pre-made meals. I buy the highest quality ones they make. That way I know Dh is getting solid nutrition. AND he'll heat one up on his own.

After 45 years, I am sick of cooking dinner. We had 5 kids, and I was always, always, always cooking. It's nice to make the week's menu plans and choose a couple nights a week where I throw a pre-packaged casserole in the oven and use a pre-packaged salad too.

He has FINALLY found how to manage his diabetes and he feels a LOT better. (wears a monitor on his upper arm and checks his BS with his phone connect. He loves techie things, so this was a great thing his doctor put him on).

You can't be mad at a person whose brain is not functioning 'correctly'. And you know it's just going to get worse, I'm sorry to say.

Pick your battles--eating PBJ's is not a crime.
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What about meals on wheels?
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I agree with Joann, he’s 80, he has a progressive disease. As long as the diabetes is managed then do what you need to do to make it easier on you and keep him eating. If the hypertension becomes a concern then just keep an eye on the sodium content-there’s lots more choices out there now.
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