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I would be looking to arrange every dependant person who is currently under your roof into immediate (or as soon as) respite residential accomodation.
Then breathe. Take 2 weeks to just breathe.
Then start the process of getting each dependant person sorted - starting with a current medical assessment, cognitive assessment if required & the necessary legal paperwork, POAs (or even Guardianship).
My aim would be to find the right care accommodation for each.
Living independently again would be the top aim... if that was a REAL option. Is it?
Do you have some goals yet? Ideas or future plans? Or are you still in crises mode? Overwhelmed & up to your eyeballs.
For the rest of your questions, go to your profile and click on Following, 7 questions you've asked will come up, along with all the comments you've gotten. I take it you understand how the forum works? And how to read your posts and comments,etc??
I just went thru OPs other posts and she has never responded. Could it be that she posts and has no way of knowing how to see her posts? I use a tablet and have had no problem since I first started with the group.
Wonder if an Administor can email her and find out what her problem seems to be. Reported my post.
Hi Caroline. I looked at your most recent question, and it has fully 7 answers, which is about the norm for any question on Forum, unless there is response back from the OP. It seems to me your situation is overwhelming. You have had two debilitated seniors and one sister who likely will need care for life "come up from Florida" and move into your own home. Now you are overwhelmed. Sadly,not everything has an answer, and especially when it has become complicated by taking a senior into your own home. Because at that point it is THEIR home. They have become a tenant, whether a paying one or not, and you have taken on responsibility for them, which can lead to threats from APS of "neglect" and a myriad other issues. At this point, having moved into your own home three people in need of 24/7 care, I cannot even imagine an answer to the situation. I do not see that it is humanely possible to continue to do this care, and winding your way out of it will be extremely difficult. I would suggest you begin by seeing an Elder Law Attorney. I am hoping you have not taken on POA for your Mom, Dad and Sister. I would suggest that you not do so, but leave this to the state as you will be having trouble enough simply to visit them in any placement facilities, let alone attempt care for them. I am so sorry. I think you must feel absolutely lost and helpless. I wish I did have an answer for you, but sadly I don't. I can only sympathize for your plight, and wish you the very best. Digging out of this is going to be dreadfully difficult. Start with a good discussion with all, yourself, your hubbie, you Mom and Dad, and your Sister. Again, I am so sorry, and I wish I had more answers for you.
Click on the blue circle with the C in it. You will see the word "following". All your questions and answers are there. Like said, its best to stay with one thread. Easier for us to follow you.
I think responding to answers gets you more interaction. So posting a question and then going completely silent will not get you much help. Too many drive by posters.
Interact with the ones that take the time to answer and that will help keep your question in current activity. Otherwise it gets way down on the questions and I know, I don't scroll through pages, 1st or 2nd page usually and that's it. I am sure I am not the only one.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would be looking to arrange every dependant person who is currently under your roof into immediate (or as soon as) respite residential accomodation.
Then breathe. Take 2 weeks to just breathe.
Then start the process of getting each dependant person sorted - starting with a current medical assessment, cognitive assessment if required & the necessary legal paperwork, POAs (or even Guardianship).
My aim would be to find the right care accommodation for each.
Living independently again would be the top aim... if that was a REAL option. Is it?
Do you have some goals yet? Ideas or future plans?
Or are you still in crises mode? Overwhelmed & up to your eyeballs.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/parkinsons-controlling-father-im-not-sure-where-to-go-from-here-looking-for-advice-476706.htm
Here's another, with 10 comments:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/husband-wont-help-me-any-suggestions-476092.htm
Here's another:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/poa-advice-475885.htm
And another:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/mom-refuses-to-walk-after-stroke-what-can-i-do-475809.htm
For the rest of your questions, go to your profile and click on Following, 7 questions you've asked will come up, along with all the comments you've gotten. I take it you understand how the forum works? And how to read your posts and comments,etc??
Wonder if an Administor can email her and find out what her problem seems to be. Reported my post.
Sadly,not everything has an answer, and especially when it has become complicated by taking a senior into your own home. Because at that point it is THEIR home. They have become a tenant, whether a paying one or not, and you have taken on responsibility for them, which can lead to threats from APS of "neglect" and a myriad other issues.
At this point, having moved into your own home three people in need of 24/7 care, I cannot even imagine an answer to the situation. I do not see that it is humanely possible to continue to do this care, and winding your way out of it will be extremely difficult.
I would suggest you begin by seeing an Elder Law Attorney. I am hoping you have not taken on POA for your Mom, Dad and Sister. I would suggest that you not do so, but leave this to the state as you will be having trouble enough simply to visit them in any placement facilities, let alone attempt care for them.
I am so sorry. I think you must feel absolutely lost and helpless. I wish I did have an answer for you, but sadly I don't. I can only sympathize for your plight, and wish you the very best. Digging out of this is going to be dreadfully difficult. Start with a good discussion with all, yourself, your hubbie, you Mom and Dad, and your Sister.
Again, I am so sorry, and I wish I had more answers for you.
I think responding to answers gets you more interaction. So posting a question and then going completely silent will not get you much help. Too many drive by posters.
Interact with the ones that take the time to answer and that will help keep your question in current activity. Otherwise it gets way down on the questions and I know, I don't scroll through pages, 1st or 2nd page usually and that's it. I am sure I am not the only one.
Try again.
The description in your profile leads me to wonder if support is enough.
Not just support but an entire team of sturdy workhorses! And another team to look after the workhorses!
What's your first question?
Maybe it was a glitch in the system. Could you post your question now.