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Does opposite of what you want. Is ruining heirlooms & giving away money.
Taking the “key fob” (for his own safety) reasons made my sister “the terrible thief”…
He is a handful of chaos.

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I am so sorry that you are struggling with this situation. You mentioned in your profile that your dad has Alzheimer’s disease and other issues. Perhaps it is in his best interests to be placed in a facility.

Speak to Council on Aging in your area for suggestions. Contact a social worker to help plan for his future care in a facility.

Wishing you and your dad all the best.
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So sorry that you are having this difficult situation with your dad. Have you discussed his behavior with his doctor? Maybe medication would help. Has he been checked for a UTI?

Best wishes to you and your dad.
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If your father has dementia he may be in the process of losing his ability to make decisions for his own benefit and personal safety.

Having paranoid reactions to a dearly loved caregiver is not unusual.

Although the effects of dementia increase with time to be me more and more generalized over the victim’s behavior, specific actions are often very difficult to predict.

If he is seen on a fairly regular schedule by a physician, it may be very helpful to you who care for him to request an evaluation by a specialist trained in geriatric assessment (psychiatrist/psychologist/neurologist- for examples), who can identify his needs and remaining abilities in terms of memory function and abilities managing self care.

If no one directly in his care holds his POA try to take care of that without delay.
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WhippinPost50 Aug 2021
Hi Ann thanks for your response! I was supposed to oversee the family trust & but my sister (who hates my father) swooped in with a POA “durable” she has complete ownership of him & EVERYTHING is too bizarre to be legit. Even self dealing is condoned & liability free. She won’t share any information at all. My dad needs care an I feel like a lawyer is just as urgent! I have narcolepsy & struggle with keeping up with everything. What kind of lawyer can oversee an unbridled POA who has hijacked the situation. She said she could file a restraining order against anyone who defied her… So I quit my job about to move 1500miles & now a sociopath (entitled, dishonest, callus, enjoys other people’s distress, targets people for victimization, relishes humiliation) is luring both myself & my father into peril.
-Sleepless near Seattle.
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You are stumbling into the "tyranny of the urgent" with your dad's care. Now is the time for his PoA to read the document to see when their authority is activated (durable: no diagnosis required, or springing: usually requires 1 or 2 diagnosis of incapacity).

If your dad has no PoA it will be more difficult to manage him and his affairs, especially banking and any investments. It's time to secure his sensitive information as much as possible and get him to the doctor. If you have to use a "therapeutic fib" to get him there, this strategy is not immoral or unethical as it is for his own good. Guardianship through the courts is an option but expensive, otherwise you can contact social services for guidance or call APS to report him as a vulnerable adult and they can pursue guardianship and then manage all his affairs. Wishing you much success and peace as you work to help your LO.
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WhippinPost50 Aug 2021
Is this a PM?
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Time for Dad to be placed in a facility. He should not be left alone. Its now 24/7 care. He may need meds to calm him.
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