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Are you talking about end of life? There are many stories of people having a rally toward the end of their life where they are able to say and do things that astonish their friends, family and caregivers. This happened to my mother - despite having been mostly immobile and not speaking for the previous year and a half she suddenly began to talk and move her head and arms, when I came for my daily visit one of the ladies at the nursing home told me she was "talking up a storm"! This remarkable rally lasted 2 or 3 days before she lapsed into the active dying stage.
It's when the person dying wakes up like nothing is wrong and it freaks you out. They are good. Want to chat hang eat try. My dad went through it. Its false. It's the awakening before the end. That was hardest for me. I am here if you need anything. Hospice is well versed in these things. Regardless just take the time to say goodbye in your way.
My daughter passed on 2013 of Ovarian cancer. She had been in the hospital for approx. 3 weeks. She wasn't eating, drinking or able to walk. She slept most of the time. One day she woke up and was talking, said she wanted to go for a ride in her wheel chair into the hallway. I had to call the nurse to get her unhooked from all her IV's. When the nurse got her unhooked she told the nurse to sit in the wheel chair because she wanted her to rest and my daughter wanted to walk. My daughter pushed the nurse around the whole 3rd floor, the nurse waived at patients as we passed by and my daughter was laughing and having fun pushing the nurse around. Everyone was amazed that she could do this, because of her condition before, a few days later, my daughter passed. It was amazing to watch how she rallied like that.
The rally is very end of life. Often, a person who is declining a lot and likely just days before death will have a period of increased zest and energy for a short window (maybe up to a day) and surprise family because the person suddenly seems more upbeat. Often this is followed by more end of life symptoms... beginning the active dying phase. It doesn’t happen to everyone but is not uncommon.
my husband died of cancer, he had been in bed and had no food for 2 weeks, one day he said he wanted to sit outside, we brought him out, he ate a dish of ice cream and talked a lot, when he got tired he went back to bed, went downhill and died 2 days later, so yes he did have an end of life rally.
my ex girlfriends mom had this. (The mom and dad both died of cancer within weeks of each other in their mid sixties, very hard on my ex of course.)
Anyway, the mom was going downhill, they thought she would die soon. My ex called me at work one day and said her mom was somehow, in her hopeful mind at least, miraculously getting much better, was alert, very talkative (more than she ever was in fact) so I went there to visit and sure enough she seemed like she was never sick. That was on a Friday. She died the following Wednesday. We learned this is very common.
We had a neighbor who was diagnosed late with stomach cancer. What they did, a few weeks before he past, was getting the word out of having an open house type party. Sounds strange, but it went Very well. Family and friends from around the country came. It was held over a few days within a 3 to 4 hours a day.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
There are many stories of people having a rally toward the end of their life where they are able to say and do things that astonish their friends, family and caregivers. This happened to my mother - despite having been mostly immobile and not speaking for the previous year and a half she suddenly began to talk and move her head and arms, when I came for my daily visit one of the ladies at the nursing home told me she was "talking up a storm"! This remarkable rally lasted 2 or 3 days before she lapsed into the active dying stage.
Anyway, the mom was going downhill, they thought she would die soon. My ex called me at work one day and said her mom was somehow, in her hopeful mind at least, miraculously getting much better, was alert, very talkative (more than she ever was in fact) so I went there to visit and sure enough she seemed like she was never sick. That was on a Friday. She died the following Wednesday. We learned this is very common.
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